What did you/spouse get out of Marriage Counseling????? - 12/03/07 06:39 PM
Since 8/25/07, we have been to the MC about a dozen times between individual and couple appointments. More than once my wife has asked me what I have been getting out of it if anything and expressing her doubts about what it is acheiving. I know for sure the best thing it has done so far is to give us insights into our personalities by taking the Myers Briggs personality tests. It is scary how accurate the resulting description is of yourself. We were both in awe. That helped me enormously in understanding what is really important to my wife and how she interprets the world.
Other than that I feel like yeah the counselor is good at relationship issues but I don't feel she is "leading" us anywhere. Counselor just keeps telling my WW to keep journaling and that she doesn't have to decide right now whether to commit to our marriage yet.
I certainly don't feel like there is any type of plan or any instructions for us as to how to recover our marriage. My own extensive reading has been way more effective than for me to pay $90 to have someone listen to me babble for an hour. Mostly counselor just validates our feelings and says you have a right to feel that way so now lets address it and hopefully work through built up resentments.
Anyone care to post the best ideas or strategies you have gotten?? One woman at work says her counselor once suggested that hubby and her hold hands for 15 minutes a day without talking about issues.
Other than that I feel like yeah the counselor is good at relationship issues but I don't feel she is "leading" us anywhere. Counselor just keeps telling my WW to keep journaling and that she doesn't have to decide right now whether to commit to our marriage yet.
I certainly don't feel like there is any type of plan or any instructions for us as to how to recover our marriage. My own extensive reading has been way more effective than for me to pay $90 to have someone listen to me babble for an hour. Mostly counselor just validates our feelings and says you have a right to feel that way so now lets address it and hopefully work through built up resentments.
Anyone care to post the best ideas or strategies you have gotten?? One woman at work says her counselor once suggested that hubby and her hold hands for 15 minutes a day without talking about issues.