Single People Paradox - 06/17/08 06:34 PM
One thing I have noticed in a more than a few A's here is the influence of single friends on the WS.
In general, it seems that they will encourage the WS to do things to "become" single. Yet, much of the time, the single friend's seem to be trying very hard to get themselves into a committed relationship.
As an example, I have seen situations where the single friend complains about how unhappy they are at not having a steady relationship, yet encourages the WS to jump right in to the same plight and divorce their BH.
I don't really understand why WS's seem to listen to much of what the friends say, rather than observe what they are doing. I also don't understand why the friends seem so compelled to praise the virtues of single life, while knowing full well it is not making them happy.
Anybody else seen this dynamic. Any thoughts on why it is?
In general, it seems that they will encourage the WS to do things to "become" single. Yet, much of the time, the single friend's seem to be trying very hard to get themselves into a committed relationship.
As an example, I have seen situations where the single friend complains about how unhappy they are at not having a steady relationship, yet encourages the WS to jump right in to the same plight and divorce their BH.
I don't really understand why WS's seem to listen to much of what the friends say, rather than observe what they are doing. I also don't understand why the friends seem so compelled to praise the virtues of single life, while knowing full well it is not making them happy.
Anybody else seen this dynamic. Any thoughts on why it is?