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Re: Single People Paradox
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In a related scenario, has anyone noticed that adulterers try to encourage their friends to have their own adultery partners? I remember years ago, when I was younng and naive, a married friend of mine started introducing me to guys she knew, almost as if they were potential dates. It was sooo weird, and I soon quit hanging out with her. Turns out she was in an affair and hoping I could have one of my own. I think it might have somehow lessened her guilt, if that makes sense.

Then not too long after that, one of my husband's buddy started acting very similarly. I actually wanted my husband to drop this buddy, but he is "loyal" to his friends, to a fault. Sure enough, the buddy was enmeshed in an affair (mot the first or the last.) To this day, it makes me uncomfortable when they hang out together.
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Originally Posted by keepitreal
In a related scenario, has anyone noticed that adulterers try to encourage their friends to have their own adultery partners? I remember years ago, when I was younng and naive, a married friend of mine started introducing me to guys she knew, almost as if they were potential dates. It was sooo weird, and I soon quit hanging out with her. Turns out she was in an affair and hoping I could have one of my own. I think it might have somehow lessened her guilt, if that makes sense.

Then not too long after that, one of my husband's buddy started acting very similarly. I actually wanted my husband to drop this buddy, but he is "loyal" to his friends, to a fault. Sure enough, the buddy was enmeshed in an affair (mot the first or the last.) To this day, it makes me uncomfortable when they hang out together.

I don't think I could tolerate my W having a friend who's in an A....and I don't think a truly remorseful FWS could tolerate being around such a person.

Personally, I'd take it as at least a minor red flag.

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