New thread for whattodo's new start - 03/23/00 12:19 PM
WTD,<P>I'm so glad you have made the decision to truly devote yourself to repairing your marriage . You should be proud that you have chosen that hard (but noble) path, not the easy path. Try to draw some strength from that fact alone!<P>You said you don't know how to work on your marriage. Well, the first step is deciding to do it, and you have done that. We men tend to be "fixers", so tackle this like you would any task. Study it, read up on it, immerse yourself in relationship building. <P>There are lots of books to help out. Find one that speaks to you. Find a counselor. Even if you are not ready to confess to your W, no doubt she knows that the relationship has a problem, so tell her you want to improve your marriage and you think counsleing would help.<P>Don't dwell on your "loss". This will drag you into depression. Do you ever wish you were a millionaire? Do you spend a lot of time dwelling on how much better your life would be if you were? It is totally unproductive.<P>I'm sure you will get lots of advice on this. Keep an open mind.<P>Again, congratulations on making such a difficult choice. You made the right one. God will bless you for it. Let him help you through it.