WOMEN ARE SO EMOTIONAL !! - 02/16/00 09:29 AM
Well, ladies now that I have your attention, (men can listen too). After lurking around her the last couple of months not saying much, and not feeling capable of helping anyone I am now at my rope's end (as if you haven't been able to tell). Based on how devoted, sincere, dedicated, and faithful the betrayed women on this board have been; and how much anguish has gone on with the betrayed men, a realization hit me!<BR>I have read in many books, including SAA, that women's affairs are mostly emotional obviously leading to physical. I now think that the strong EMOTIONAL attachment that women have in their relationships (even affairs) keeps them bonded in those relationships. (Only if the relationship/affair has been going on a for like a minimum of 2-4 months, and not just a quickie affair or one nite stand) Men can be emotionally attached, but it seems that our conditional love can be knocked off by continued negative behavior. It takes a little longer for women to lose that conditional love. Just my observations. I've noticed as the betrayed men here have had little success (K and lonestar exceptions) and I think that once a women transfers her emotional attachment she ain't ever bringing it back.<BR>As we become non-entities in our wives lives, except as the father, their emotional being is elsewhere. Do I expect, they can transfer it back? Well, again based on this board many have had that problem (Maya, Holly, some new ones also). <BR>I know I may just be rambling and this may only apply in my case, since that intense desire/passion/emotional attachment from my wife may not have been that strong in my marriage. remember in 6 yrs together my wife initiated maybe 3-7 times, and on our honeymoon over 10 days we had relations once <BR>She obviously has not felt that inhibited with the OM, and to her it tells her she just did not have it for me. The it could be the chemistry, the intense emotional attachment. Well, Medic, I see you are also in a quandry and along with rutger and I, we are in the, wife is out of the house timeline (greater than 6 mths) right after Chris.<p>[This message has been edited by izzy (edited February 16, 2000).]