Renee and Renee's husband...<P>There are times when it is good to have a couple on the forum together.<P>Do discuss this as an option...<BR>...but be careful to practice honesty.<P>All too many times... one spouse will unintentionally hurt the other with a post or reply... (Arik/Nicole SparkyDog/Caterpillar...)<P>Renee's Husband...<BR>...I think Renee may direct you to this post... (or you may find it on your own)...<P>I'd like to welcome you...<P>I have a post of general welcome I wish to share with you... <P>It has a lot of quick links to many of the <B>most</B> important MB sites...<BR>Click here ==> <A HREF="http://www.marriagebuilders.com/forum/Forum29/HTML/000002.html" TARGET=_blank>General Welcome for All New Builders(Newbies)</A><P>It's a good starting point since there are so many pages(sites) to look at...<BR>...take your time...<BR>...don't feel rushed... (especially not by anyone here at the forum)...<BR>...we can only hope that Renee will be patient... <P>If you indeed feel that Renne is... "not to worry about what I(Renee) done (OM). That was in the past."... you are well on the way to a very healthy healing!!! <P>"That Satan was the one trying to get me(Renee) down. Not to let the OM thing bother me(Renee). That we were on the road to success for the first time in our marriage and that was what I(Renee) needed to concentrate on. "... are more than just great insights... but important first "acceptances" that will lead you through a <B>good</B> recovery!<P>Renee really feels <B>You are the best thing</B>!!! If you were honest with her... <B>SHE IS RIGHT</B>!<P>If you are willing to put in a sustained effort... you can have a marriage ten times better than you could have ever envisioned.<P>It will take work... and time...<BR>...but it is so much more rewarding than living in the limbo/hell... that too many marriages slide into.<P>I pray for you... <BR>I pray for Renee... <BR>I pray for your marriage... <P>God Bless you... <P> <P>Jim (a welcome wagon to the MB forums)

Hey,<BR> <BLOCKQUOTE><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><HR><BR><B>All too many times... one spouse will unintentionally hurt the other with a post or reply... </B> <HR></BLOCKQUOTE><P>We resemble that remark!! You do have to be careful posting things when your spouse is here too. But you do have to be honest about what happened, what was said, what the feelings are because the people here have been through the exact same thing and can give great advise and support.<P>Please don't let the fact that Cat and I aren't exactly a success story sway you from using Marriage Builders. We have both grown quite a bit using these techniques and will be able to use them in future relationships. I, of course, hope that is with Cat. However, I can't make her want to try, regardless of how much I Plan A, B, C, D, etc.... That is a decision she has made and I will abide by it.<P>Anyway, be patient with each other, be honest about your feelings, but most of all, love each other. <P>Have a great day.<P>------------------<BR>Allen<BR>sparky_dog_mb@yahoo.com<P>[This message has been edited by Sparkydog (edited April 20, 2000).]<p>[This message has been edited by Sparkydog (edited April 20, 2000).]