My in person counseling experience with H sucked big time. They made us talk about things we had already settled and left behind. However, the therapist believed we didn't talk about sufficiently to really not be a source of hurt for us. Well, it didn't help in fact it made it worse. <P>We went in feeling close, and after 5 sessions we were more distant than when we began. I started counseling with Steve, but H doesn't want anymore counseling. <P>Fifteen minutes of health care system, I hope you told your H he got ripped off! That makes me so angry. It's so difficult to get them to see a counselor to begin with, and then to have a quack screw it up. Rrnnnrrrr<P>From the first session, there has to be a plan about the direction you want to go (goals). Unless the counselor can provide a plan, as opposed to let's wing it and see what happens, don't go to him. After the 5th and last couples session, H and I had enough. It took a lot out of us, but I still wanted counseling. I called Steve Harley and it was the best thing, but now I can't get H to talk to him.
H says he doesn't want to go through that again!<P>I also found another website called DivorceBusters <A HREF="http://www.weiner-davis.com/" TARGET=_blank>http://www.weiner-davis.com/</A> <BR>See if that can help you.<P>Good luck, MT<P>