I think it DOES insult them... - 10/19/00 10:09 PM
(This was to Resilient. I am SO SORRY!!! I do not know WHAT is going on! I keep trying to post under threads and it's making NEW threads.)<P>I think it does make them mad...to feel they can't place "expectations" on you or continue to derive emotional satisfaction from you. By the way, I think Plan B is BRILLIANT!!! Having had an affair, I'd say THIS demonstrates the utterly delusional way a person thinks who's in an affair. There's a real "loss of touch with reality". There can be an odd possessiveness of YOU while seeing themselves as completely independent of in any way impacting you with their goofed-up, selfish choices. It's tunnel-vision at it's worst. <P>As I recall, Harley described Plan B as being to protect the feelings of the spouse who's been betrayed from further erosion. Seemed he spoke of it protecting you from further hurts that might lend themselves to numerous love-busters. Maybe I'm recalling it wrong. But I surely think it's brilliant beyond words!!! I think it's a dramatic wake-up call for the one who's in the process of blindly losing SO VERY MUCH!!!<P>Apparently your husband has some dependencies on you still and is feeling the loss somewhat by what you've described. This does not COMPARE to losing you utterly and forever if he continues on this destructive course. I pray he see's how much you mean to him and how much he has derived from you!!!<P>Robino <P><p>[This message has been edited by Robino (edited October 19, 2000).]