Husband said something that kind of confused me. - 09/30/01 08:56 PM
I am a little confused. I posted on an earlier thread about why would husband want to have sex with wife and girlfriend. I am the BS(wife). He made a statement today, after having sex, that we should keep any physical, sexual contact private. That if it were to get out to OW or his family it could cost him a lot of money. Now, nothing legal has been filed yet, neither of us have even talked to a lawyer. So, what did he mean by this statement. Yes, it would be embarrassing (sp?) for HIM if it were to get out. He is the one one decided to move out and have an affair. I know that at this point there is no chance of reconcilliation. The sex was mainly for me, because I needed some physical contact with another human being and I am not going to have sex with anyone but my husband. I think he is worried that I will make it out to be something that it is not. I think he is afraid that I will use it against him when divorce is filed. I have decided to forgive him for what he is doing. I must forgive him if I want to have him in my life. I know I will not have him as a husband and I think at this point, I am ok with that. We have been separated for 15 months, so I have run the gammet on emotional issues - from I hate him to where I am now. I do want to keep him as a friend and I want him to stay in contact with our kids. I have thought about in the past moving back to the state where my parents are, and my H has let me know that he does not want me to go. He wants the best of both worlds. He wants me here, but not as his wife. I guess I am just confused as to why? Why is he afraid of people finding out about our "different" relationship and why does he still want me around? What are the legal ramifications to what we are doing? I guess I am nieve (sp?)about these things!! <p>[This message has been edited by Rdhead10 (edited September 30, 2001).]