<BR>I am the other women.i left my 13 yr relationship because i fell in love wit my married employer.we have been together 6 months. his W caught us together 2 wks, ago at my house.he will not tell me its over nor her. i see him at work daily and for TALKS after work. he tells me he is trying to think of a way to get out of M financially. he also has grown children staying at home temp. and said he does not want to leave until the are on feet,RESPONSIBILITY thing.i have tried ignoring him and not believing him but always end up believing him.is he staying or leaving, just tel us both so we can move on!!!<BR>

How about you taking control and telling him it's over and for him to go back to his wife.<P>You said you were in a 13 year relationship. Were you married? Are you still or have you gotten a divorce? If you are still married how about trying to work things out with your husband?

You cannot change what has happened, but you can change your future! For his sake, his wife, and his kids, you should break it off completely! Do not hurt so many people because of your feelings! You should do what is right and tell him it's over! I would say to work on YOUR marriage that you left behind.

Why don't you try reading some of these postings to get some idea of the pain you're causing. Do you think you and he exist in some sort of vacuum? Everything you do affects everyone else involved. Do you think you are so important that your happiness trumps everyone else's? What about his wife and children? What about your Husband (?) Do you have children? If you want to leave your relationship, at least choose someone who is free. And if not, brace yourself, honey. All his excuses are a sure sign he has no intention of leaving his family.