dedicated dad's please read, at witts end! - 04/04/04 04:10 AM
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I just want to know how many dedicated dad's out there feel it would be a privilege to watch their children play soccer on their final soccer weekend, there are also parent games to play against their kids as well. I just finished asking my husband who wants a divorce ( he's in the fog, loves someone else, claims he doesn't anymore, pressured into marrying me you know how the story goes) anyway I asked him if he was comming to soccer sunday and he said he is going to visit his friend jack. Meanwhile I would love to play against my kids tommorow but have to worry about the two year old who waunders all over the field and might get hurt or lost etc. He told me to figure it out, buy her some chips and strap her in the stroller. This is how he always seems to be, the kids are not important enough, he has told me in the past if you have seen one game you have seen them all. He then wonders why I was a naggy wife we'll these things are important to me, spending time with our kids, going camping, going away on holidays, creating memories that will last a lifetime. Is this so wrong, am I asking for too much? All I have ever wanted is to to be a family!
So tell me dad's, do you all spend time with your kids. I hate feeling like I have been a single parent throughout our whole marriage, He see's jack all the time, I guess I know where his priorities lay.
We have three children 8, 5, 2, we have never taken them camping ever. last summer we went once but he was miserable it was one month before he told me he want's out. I got fed up and took them and went with my sister inlaw they had a blast. I am extemely frustated and angry at my H.
Any advice?
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lostnhurt
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posted April 03, 2004 09:27 PM
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SNT, I know how you feel. I felt that before. But supprisingly, since he asked for a D, H became more involved with kids. I don't know why, maybe he felt guilty about his A.
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sad and tired
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posted April 03, 2004 10:06 PM
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Thanks for the post. My H I doesn't feel guilty at all claims its all for the better for me and him that we will find someone we are truly meant to be with. He's into past life stuff.
The thing is these things have never seemed all that important to him. Think's they will grow up fine and everything will be ok. Has been like this since we had the kids. but then he claims he never wanted to do these things because I was there and it was me he never wanted to be around.
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I just want to know how many dedicated dad's out there feel it would be a privilege to watch their children play soccer on their final soccer weekend, there are also parent games to play against their kids as well. I just finished asking my husband who wants a divorce ( he's in the fog, loves someone else, claims he doesn't anymore, pressured into marrying me you know how the story goes) anyway I asked him if he was comming to soccer sunday and he said he is going to visit his friend jack. Meanwhile I would love to play against my kids tommorow but have to worry about the two year old who waunders all over the field and might get hurt or lost etc. He told me to figure it out, buy her some chips and strap her in the stroller. This is how he always seems to be, the kids are not important enough, he has told me in the past if you have seen one game you have seen them all. He then wonders why I was a naggy wife we'll these things are important to me, spending time with our kids, going camping, going away on holidays, creating memories that will last a lifetime. Is this so wrong, am I asking for too much? All I have ever wanted is to to be a family!
So tell me dad's, do you all spend time with your kids. I hate feeling like I have been a single parent throughout our whole marriage, He see's jack all the time, I guess I know where his priorities lay.
We have three children 8, 5, 2, we have never taken them camping ever. last summer we went once but he was miserable it was one month before he told me he want's out. I got fed up and took them and went with my sister inlaw they had a blast. I am extemely frustated and angry at my H.
Any advice?
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lostnhurt
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posted April 03, 2004 09:27 PM
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SNT, I know how you feel. I felt that before. But supprisingly, since he asked for a D, H became more involved with kids. I don't know why, maybe he felt guilty about his A.
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lostnhurt
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sad and tired
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posted April 03, 2004 10:06 PM
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Thanks for the post. My H I doesn't feel guilty at all claims its all for the better for me and him that we will find someone we are truly meant to be with. He's into past life stuff.
The thing is these things have never seemed all that important to him. Think's they will grow up fine and everything will be ok. Has been like this since we had the kids. but then he claims he never wanted to do these things because I was there and it was me he never wanted to be around.
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