I am a wife having an affair - 02/12/02 01:07 AM
I have been married for a little over 5 years, havea 2 year old little girl who I adore and about 4 months ago ran into an old lover from graduate school and now meet him 1-2 times per week for lovemaking sessions at his house and dinners out etc. etc. I just got back this morning from spending the night at his house while my in-laws were in town watching our baby overnight at their hotel (my husband went out to play cards with friends, I told them I was going out on the twon with friends when I actually went to his house, made love for several hours, went out to dinner, went in the jacuzzi and made love most of the night) I love my husband and daughter however this man gives me something that my husband I think is incapable fo giving me. I feel very guilty however not guitly enough to stop.
I love my affair. It is the most exciting thing that has happened to me in years. He is a fabulous lover but most of all he listens to me and adores me. My husband barely acknowledged that I was leaving Saturday night as the olympics were beginning. I wanted to tell him right then and there just to see if he was even listening. It is frustrating because I know he loves me so much and maybe even depends on me too much to take care of EVERYTHING. I for once in my life want someone to take care of me! This man takes control and care of everything which is a humungous turn on for me. I ask my husband to take control of some of the household things (like the finances, for example) I am not saying I want him to do laundry or any bull**** like that, I mean take pride in the house, see things that need to be fixed and either fix it or call someone. Don't wait for me to do it every time. I feel like the man and the woman most of the time.<p>I know it is wrong, I do know that. Why am I doing this and has anyone been in this situation, what happens next? What should I do? I love them both. THe affair will never lead to marriage-ever-it is more fun than anything else plus we are from very different cultural backgrounds (jewish vs. iranian)<p>Please write and let me know what you think
I love my affair. It is the most exciting thing that has happened to me in years. He is a fabulous lover but most of all he listens to me and adores me. My husband barely acknowledged that I was leaving Saturday night as the olympics were beginning. I wanted to tell him right then and there just to see if he was even listening. It is frustrating because I know he loves me so much and maybe even depends on me too much to take care of EVERYTHING. I for once in my life want someone to take care of me! This man takes control and care of everything which is a humungous turn on for me. I ask my husband to take control of some of the household things (like the finances, for example) I am not saying I want him to do laundry or any bull**** like that, I mean take pride in the house, see things that need to be fixed and either fix it or call someone. Don't wait for me to do it every time. I feel like the man and the woman most of the time.<p>I know it is wrong, I do know that. Why am I doing this and has anyone been in this situation, what happens next? What should I do? I love them both. THe affair will never lead to marriage-ever-it is more fun than anything else plus we are from very different cultural backgrounds (jewish vs. iranian)<p>Please write and let me know what you think