POJA -----HELP and ADVICE Please! - 03/24/04 07:40 PM
My H and I have had informal POJA's . Occassionally written. I think we definitely need to move to written for those "forgetful" moments.
I'm feeling frustrated and sad because I "thought" we had POJA'd about his computer use after hours. I like to go to bed a bit earlier than him, but am very uncomfortable with him being on the internet while I am asleep due to his past .
Last night he came home from work at 1:45 a.m. He came in and said Hello. I started to talk to him a little about his night since it is a new job. He gave me a hug and was on his way out.I asked him if he was going to take a shower or just change. He said he wasn't ready for bed. I said well just sit here and talk to me then. Or we can watch TV.
I ended up falling asleep. He was on the computer. I came out and mentioned our agreement. He wouildn't come to bed. I went back to our room pissed and then came back out at around 3 a.m. and finally he says.
"Are you ready for bed?"
I was going to do my old behavior and sleep on the couch but I came to bed.
This a.m. he stills says this is my problem, he's not coming to bed if he's not tired...
I'm at a loss.
I'm feeling frustrated and sad because I "thought" we had POJA'd about his computer use after hours. I like to go to bed a bit earlier than him, but am very uncomfortable with him being on the internet while I am asleep due to his past .
Last night he came home from work at 1:45 a.m. He came in and said Hello. I started to talk to him a little about his night since it is a new job. He gave me a hug and was on his way out.I asked him if he was going to take a shower or just change. He said he wasn't ready for bed. I said well just sit here and talk to me then. Or we can watch TV.
I ended up falling asleep. He was on the computer. I came out and mentioned our agreement. He wouildn't come to bed. I went back to our room pissed and then came back out at around 3 a.m. and finally he says.
"Are you ready for bed?"
I was going to do my old behavior and sleep on the couch but I came to bed.
This a.m. he stills says this is my problem, he's not coming to bed if he's not tired...
I'm at a loss.