blamed by the in-laws - 02/18/13 04:03 PM
Two years ago my wife had an affair, before the affair I was injured at work, herniated disc. I treated my wife like a queen everything I did I wanted to make sure she knew she could trust mebecause she was the sneaky kind seemed like she steered lying a lot around that time. anyways she went to bingo a lot, weird I know for a 25 year old but I didn't think anything of it we had two kids and she needed a break because I worked out of town all of the time... I had this feeling for a long time abd I knew something was going on and when I would ? her she would act like a child yell and scream and was very distant... I tried to let her know I was there for her if she ever need me but she would never and still never talks to me about her problems even though I have tried so hard to get her to open up to me... one day I got home from work and she told me that she was leaving abd that she didn't know if she loved me anymore but I need to stay faithful to her through this because if I had an affair it would surely be over... later that day I saw her at the mall holding tge hand off another man and kissing him... it broke my heart, I was sickened she couldn't even tell me she was sleeping with another man. I approached them to find out the normal ?'s only to have it turned on me telling me I was stalking my own wife! it's that even possible? anyways I wasn't I was trying to get through her not loving me anymore so I wanted to walk around the mall for a little to waste some time since there isn't anything to do in this town and my wife pretty much made me choose between the mother of my child or my friends so I didn't have any friends... I was devastated and she stayed away from me for months telling people horrible lies about me like I was a drug addict and I abused her and I was a horrible father/person... I had never so much as even touched her in anger nor was I a drug addict I worked 120 hours a week to provide for my family... anyways two years have passed and we have since gotten back together it took months for this dude she had an affair with abd her to leave each other alone... I am still deviststed by this we have been to Christian counseling but got nowhere she blamed me for things, she would make up things and tell the counselors each week we were separated taken into another room and I was asked why I did drugs abd other things I said I'm where she.gets I'm on drugs but I am not... I had been take a very regulated dose of pain medication for my injured back but that was all and I didn't accuse it for crying out loud... well now or marriage is just terrible she still ids unable to talk to me about anything and it's still unable to just acknowledge that's she does anything wrong. now she calls my mother in law and sister in law and tells them things that are partially true mixed with lies to make me look horrible... idk what I have ever done to her I really honestly don't... when we meet she was pregnant not showing of course and did not tell me until weeks into our relationship when she was sure I had fallen for her I gave up my dreams and the life I had planned quit college after two years to go get a job and support her and the little one after all I had feelings for her and was willing to do whatever I could so she would know that... I got a job in the oil field certainly not what I had planned for my future but I was in love... I think after all I've been through I'm ready to end this, I am tired of what she says about me what lies she tells and the fact that she won't come and talk to me but goes to her mother which in my mind is an affair being that I get nothing from her... what should I do!?