Its been two years since my affair(s) and ya, that was really stupid and I was being a total selfish brat.
I am sorry, I didn't understand that this was something that happened before this current issue.
When my H expressed a realy desire to get help, and he went to counselling, I believed him.
I understand, that's is what I would do and want if this would have happen to me. You love your partner, and want them to get the help they need. But please understand that trust is something I would not give so easily. I would watch my partner's so damn close that might do more harm to my relationship with them. I Don't care! children come first, formost and always! It's our job to feed, care, love and protect them. I would tell my partner "This will never happen again"! I will put you in jail, take your [censored] to court and do whatever it takes to stop this insanity. When any poster hears of "child abuse" the parental instincts kicks in; protect, Protect and PROTECT!!!
It's how God made us!
I am hurt beacuse she kid that from me, instead of protecting her niece and nephew.
I understand, if my sister in law hide something like this from me, I would be unable to look her in the face! I might want to hit her in the face but could never trust her again! if my sister hide this from me. I would never forgive Her! NEVER! But I know my sister would never do this, she would protect them!
I am very very happy being alone and I ahve hard days, but I am pretty organized and I work my nine hours, come home, cook, do a load of laundry, play with the kids, do homework and after they go to bed, give myself an hour or 2 alone to cry, write, read, whatever.
I am happier than I have been in years!
Thats my personal self evaluation.
ditto: I feel the same and is what I do each day because like you, I love my children that no sacrifice would be to great! You are loving, caring and now protecting your children. Good for you! and never let that man touch your children AGAIN! For he is no man in my book!!! You gave him another chance and he blew it! Don't ever trust him again and I sorry to say even his own family! They blew it as well!