Am I living on false hope???? - 01/13/09 04:59 PM
My wife and I have been together for over 20 years and married for over 17. This summer she told me she wants out. She wants a divorice. I told her I could not just walk away from what we had. After crying I stood up and told her to contact a realtor and lawywer we will begin getting a divorice. She agreed to try counseling.
We are seeing a counseler for 3 months now. After using the love busters and emotional needs forms things seemed to be getting better. But last Sat night she told me, she still doesn't love me, I broke her trust (not through an affair but being emotionally ignorant)and it might never be repaired, and she doesn't know if she is willing to take a chance on trusting me again. (She always has had trust issues) Today, I left a signed check in my lunch bag on my desk. She told me when we settle our affairs, she wants her money direct deposited.
I felt leaving the lunch bag on the desk was alright because there were only four people in the factory when I came in. Three security officers and me. Two of the security officers are on perimeter watch (which she was one of) and the other a roving interior officer.
Why does she keep bringing up divorice? What can I do to rebuild our trust if she is not willing to open up? I do not want to lose my best friend, lover, and partner. How long does counseling take before things improve? My love bank is running low. At times I am ready to surrender and tell her to call the lawyer.
Please help! ! Any suggestions are welcome.
We are seeing a counseler for 3 months now. After using the love busters and emotional needs forms things seemed to be getting better. But last Sat night she told me, she still doesn't love me, I broke her trust (not through an affair but being emotionally ignorant)and it might never be repaired, and she doesn't know if she is willing to take a chance on trusting me again. (She always has had trust issues) Today, I left a signed check in my lunch bag on my desk. She told me when we settle our affairs, she wants her money direct deposited.
I felt leaving the lunch bag on the desk was alright because there were only four people in the factory when I came in. Three security officers and me. Two of the security officers are on perimeter watch (which she was one of) and the other a roving interior officer.
Why does she keep bringing up divorice? What can I do to rebuild our trust if she is not willing to open up? I do not want to lose my best friend, lover, and partner. How long does counseling take before things improve? My love bank is running low. At times I am ready to surrender and tell her to call the lawyer.
Please help! ! Any suggestions are welcome.