Ex-wife issues. Venting - 11/24/19 08:11 PM
Synopsis of previous thread: started dating a co-worker about a month ago. Things have been going really great with her. We hang out all the time, our relationship doesn't interfere with our job, our co-workers are happy we "FINALLY" got together. We've both realized we have very strong feelings for each other, probably stemming from the close friendship we had prior to getting together.
Events of two nights: my ex-brother-in-law and his wife ran into my girlfriend and I while we were eating out. We were always on friendly terms and we chatted for a bit before he went along his way. Well, I guess he told my ex that I was dating, no big deal because I didn't tell him not to tell her. Last night, I'm laying in bed reading and I get a string of texts from my ex. She's doing ok, not great, but ok. Lives in a two bedroom apartment but somewhat struggling financially. She's sorry for how she neglected me. She's sorry she couldn't show me physical affection without me begging. She misses me. She realized what she had now that I've been gone for a year. The list goes on. I barely respond. When she's finally done I tell her that I've moved on with my life and it's for the best that she does as well. Including our marriage, we spent a total of 20 years together and we just weren't compatible.
Well, she apparently doesn't like the fact that I've moved on. Accused me of cheating with my co-worker - I didn't. In fact, I didn't meet her until after the divorce was finalized. Called me sick because I'm 42 and dating a 29 year old "child." The slew of insults went on and on until I finally told her enough was enough and that the only contact we'd have was the small alimony check I send her every month and when that's done in a few years to not ever contact me again.
I've blocked her number, e-mail, and across social media. Needless to say it fowled my mood the rest of the night.
Why, after a year, would she try to come back?
Events of two nights: my ex-brother-in-law and his wife ran into my girlfriend and I while we were eating out. We were always on friendly terms and we chatted for a bit before he went along his way. Well, I guess he told my ex that I was dating, no big deal because I didn't tell him not to tell her. Last night, I'm laying in bed reading and I get a string of texts from my ex. She's doing ok, not great, but ok. Lives in a two bedroom apartment but somewhat struggling financially. She's sorry for how she neglected me. She's sorry she couldn't show me physical affection without me begging. She misses me. She realized what she had now that I've been gone for a year. The list goes on. I barely respond. When she's finally done I tell her that I've moved on with my life and it's for the best that she does as well. Including our marriage, we spent a total of 20 years together and we just weren't compatible.
Well, she apparently doesn't like the fact that I've moved on. Accused me of cheating with my co-worker - I didn't. In fact, I didn't meet her until after the divorce was finalized. Called me sick because I'm 42 and dating a 29 year old "child." The slew of insults went on and on until I finally told her enough was enough and that the only contact we'd have was the small alimony check I send her every month and when that's done in a few years to not ever contact me again.
I've blocked her number, e-mail, and across social media. Needless to say it fowled my mood the rest of the night.
Why, after a year, would she try to come back?