DB,<P>I am a "betrayed" STBX wife, and my STBX H takes his OW to the soccer games. <P>Unfortunately, the first few games, I got there first and my EX and His OW sat RIGHT NEXT TO ME. It was VERY uncomfortable, because EX talks to me as if it was last year. Before the affair. If I were to get up and move, then I'd be the one to look bad.<P>I never missed a game last year and I don't intend to miss one this year on account of my ex. I go and its hard and I hate it, but I do it for the kids. <P>The next incident, the OW went WITHOUT my ex as he was working. The B**CH had the nerve to walk up next to me and try asking me how the kids were last weekend. Then she sat right next to me. <P>I know a lot of people there and I don't stay in one place, and if she asked me a question, I'd answer it, not nasty, but not like she's my best friend either. I thought I did a good job.<P>Until I got home and my EX called to yell at me for talking about OW while at the game. I had told an aunt that SOMEONE was a B**TCH, but it was not in referrence to OW. We were talking very low, I am surprised OW even heard us. Like I told my ex, I am civil to them in front of the kids, but we ARE NOT friends. I do NOT have to forgive my ex for what he's done and I WILL tell the OW how I feel about her. <P>In the end, this thing seems to have backfired, I have seen either of them at a game since
<P>Now in my case, it has been 5 months since X left (xmas day) and I have been thru a lot. I can handle two hours of being near them, because its for the kids.<P>I won't lie, sometimes I go home and drink a beer, sometimes I go home and cry, but its only because it hurts. I don't want to go there and have them smile and try to be friends with me. I don't like them. I never will. The story about the OW proves that she really is a trouble maker and now I know it.<P>Do what makes you feel best. Its not all that fair to the kids for you to go every other, if you always went before. I do plan on missing a game because I actually have something I want to do. For once in 11 years, I will do something for me, and its unfortunate it came up on the night of soccer, but I don't think it is all that bad that I miss that one.<P>If you really HATE them, I would suggest, casually show up in the middle of the first quarter, the spots will be all filled in and it will appear you just go take a spot where there's one open (most likely not near your ex). <P>Bring support along. Don't go alone. I actually sit with STBX dad, step mom, his grandpa, his aunt and sometimes one of my friends go with me. (They all hate him) I walk the field to watch my daughter score a goal and I talk to the other mothers. If anything DON'T let them know it hurts. <P>Let me know how it goes.
Good luck , you can do it
<P>Dana<BR>