It's Official...the Fog Has Lifted! - 05/07/01 06:20 AM
I guess this is a follow up to my "Did I do the Right Thing" post.<P>For those of you that missed it, my Ex wanted to have a drink with me last night, and I blew her off.<P>Turns out she wanted to talk to me about a few things! She called today, and basically said she had been living in a "fantasy world" for the last year, and that last night was a "wake up call" that I wouldn't be there for her when she needed me.<P>Yes, she's a little slow on the uptake! <P>You see, neither of us have family out here, so we always relied on each other for everything. Since she left, I've been relying on myself and my friends (both at work and here on MB) for support. Apparently there is not such a strong support network for WS's!<P>So I told her that it was nothing personal, but I was tired, in a bad mood, and really just didn't want to see her...which she should expect, since we're divorced. She countered that she had no one else to turn to, and she really was having a bad day, and she really needed me.<P>I hit her with "well, YOU were the one who left me, YOU were the one who divorced me, YOU were the one who said our relationship was over, so what do you expect?"<P>(long silence)<P>There was a bit more, but suffice to say, like a puppy that has been scolded, she kinda put her head down and slunk away on the phone, and said she'd call later in the week sometime.<P>I think two things have happened: <P> The dream romance with the OM has ended. I say that because she's been depressed for about a week now, and it has been months since she's gone to see him. I don't know this for sure, but I just get the feeling that it has fizzled.<P> She's realized that I am actually getting on with my own life without her. She never really expected that! I was always like the faithful dog who would take her back no matter what. Tonight I told her "we're not dating, we're not boyfriend and girlfriend, we're not married, and we don't have a relationship...I don't know what we are, but you're just my ex-wife. That's it."<P>So here I am. My Ex has finally come out of the Fog, but now I don't know what to do with her. She can admit that this whole thing was a mistake, but she's way too proud to come crawling back...and quite frankly I don't know if I would take her back!<P><BR>And to top it all off...<P>There was this lady at the checkout stand that I always had my eye on. A friend of mine has been trying to hook me up with someone he said would be "perfect" for me...guess who it was? He gave me her phone number, and I guess she's interested.<P>Somebody call the tv networks, I've got a soap opera going on here!<P><BR><p>[This message has been edited by cjack (edited May 07, 2001).]