Help me out of this limbo!! - 05/29/02 07:39 PM
I posted this on "General Questions" in response to someone else who was seeking advice on dealing with spouse like mine. HELP!!<p>I am in the same boat. After 4 months of not snooping & him dismissing D he filed, I find out he's still at it. He recently went to conference out of town for 3rd time. Aiport is 1+hrs drive away, also where he works now. Each time, he told me he would not be home as he had to "meet his
supervisor" "prepare for a meeting" and lastly, "catch up on some work". I opened my soul to him
onphone saying I would not ask questions about "the past" (affair) and cant we work it out. @
weeks ago he got jealous of a male relative of mine (!) and said lets work it out. When I asked
questions he got pissed & took it all back. He denies affair adamently.<p>Well, I got suspicious of this conference returning crap & drove over to OW's place late at night when he shouldve been at hotel in other town ready to go to work. His truck was there!!! This is in our hometown. He mustve heard my car engine cause he came zooming home & said he just had to stop by OW's to "ask her a question about work"!!! You mean it couldnt wait til 8AM next morning & call her at work!?? But still, she last worked where he is now, 5 years ago. Project manager my eye! Im sure someone in the other town in new job could answer it. I'll bet there was no question. He just got busted after another 4 months of lying.<p>And he makes me doubt myself after all I have seen to be true with my own eyes and/ heard from people close to the source.<p>I can't cut myself off & not talk to him or do things for him. WHY NOT! I am so mad at myself.
He needs to be kicked from here to kingdom come. Let OW do his laundry, buy his groceries, take care of him when he is sick and let HER listen to his constant complaining and paranoia.<p>I sensed she is a hooker in her bedroom manners. We were intimate once and he was WAY different & impersonal (wham bam). Also, OW's ex-H told me stuff.<p>AARGH! Help me let go!! No response from him from Plan A type behavior on my part. HE sleeps
on floor & doesnt talk to me but 2 words. ANd I cant Plan B because he denies affair and
apparently has not stopped it yet! ANd he lives at home with me. I want to continue living at home. He threatens to fight me on it & says I cant afford it. Has tried to talk me into selling it. (Probably so him & her can get new house with the profits). I'll be darned if I move out & let OW move in with him in my house!!
supervisor" "prepare for a meeting" and lastly, "catch up on some work". I opened my soul to him
onphone saying I would not ask questions about "the past" (affair) and cant we work it out. @
weeks ago he got jealous of a male relative of mine (!) and said lets work it out. When I asked
questions he got pissed & took it all back. He denies affair adamently.<p>Well, I got suspicious of this conference returning crap & drove over to OW's place late at night when he shouldve been at hotel in other town ready to go to work. His truck was there!!! This is in our hometown. He mustve heard my car engine cause he came zooming home & said he just had to stop by OW's to "ask her a question about work"!!! You mean it couldnt wait til 8AM next morning & call her at work!?? But still, she last worked where he is now, 5 years ago. Project manager my eye! Im sure someone in the other town in new job could answer it. I'll bet there was no question. He just got busted after another 4 months of lying.<p>And he makes me doubt myself after all I have seen to be true with my own eyes and/ heard from people close to the source.<p>I can't cut myself off & not talk to him or do things for him. WHY NOT! I am so mad at myself.
He needs to be kicked from here to kingdom come. Let OW do his laundry, buy his groceries, take care of him when he is sick and let HER listen to his constant complaining and paranoia.<p>I sensed she is a hooker in her bedroom manners. We were intimate once and he was WAY different & impersonal (wham bam). Also, OW's ex-H told me stuff.<p>AARGH! Help me let go!! No response from him from Plan A type behavior on my part. HE sleeps
on floor & doesnt talk to me but 2 words. ANd I cant Plan B because he denies affair and
apparently has not stopped it yet! ANd he lives at home with me. I want to continue living at home. He threatens to fight me on it & says I cant afford it. Has tried to talk me into selling it. (Probably so him & her can get new house with the profits). I'll be darned if I move out & let OW move in with him in my house!!