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www.restorem.org. Their testimony. This is the woman who didn't get an attorney. But she also advises against causing your spouse to become angry by not signing papers. So... if your wife insists and is fuming because you won't sign, then you should sign even though you have made it clear that you do not want to.
You know, I signed the papers. I didn't know what else to do. My husband later told me that had I not signed them, he would've not divorced me. For him, it would've shown him that I truly loved him because he didn't believe that I did.
Pray for discernment. Each situation is different and God works in different ways in each of our lives. Don't keep insisting with your wife. I mean, tell her you don't want the divorce but say it gently, in love, and not to make her feel guilty, etc.
It is not easy. May God give you WISDOM!
"The Testimony of How God Restored Our Marriage"
In January of 1989, I left Erin for another woman. However, the Lord gave Erin the heart and endurance to stand for our marriage. It was during this fiery trial that Erin became a new woman. She studied the Bible concerning marriage and began to apply the principles in her life. Like the three youths who were thrown into the fiery furnace, Erin too became "loosed" of things in her life that had her "bound." She also found herself walking with another, her precious Lord. (See Daniel 3:25.)
Everyone, even the most respected pastors in our city, told Erin that it was hopeless to fight against my desire to leave her and be with another woman. But Erin found in God's Word that "nothing is impossible with God!" (Luke 1:37) It was during this time that she founded Restore Ministries to help those who also wanted their marriages restored. She began by sharing with each of them the Scriptures the Lord had shown her. Soon there were too many women to help individually, so she began to type out the Bible references. Some of the women who came had never held a Bible in their hands, so Erin began to type out entire verses and then make copies to minister to the these hurting and abandoned women.
However, the more she helped other women, the worse her situation became. The fiery furnace was turned up when I divorced Erin in October of 1990. However, the Lord gave Erin the peace she needed to not fight or contest the divorce, but to trust in her Lord. Undaunted, Erin continued to minister to other women by sharing the Word of God. She told the Lord that if He would restore her marriage to the man she loved, me, she would devote her life to helping women in marriage crises. That's when Erin put together a workbook for women - A Wise Woman Builds Her House: By A FOOL Who Tore Hers Down with Her Own Hands.
Our marriage was miraculously restored due, in part, to Erin's obedience to not obtain an attorney. God delivered me when it was discovered that even though the judge had granted the divorce on October 30, the papers that had been filed by my attorney were in error and the divorce had to be overturned. This, to me, was the first sign from God that He would "somehow" deliver me from the cords that had me bound to the adulteress.
Had Erin had an attorney, the divorce would not have been overturned. However, I was unaware that Erin had dreamt of a big wedding from the day the Lord told her that the divorce would go through until the day of God's mighty deliverance (7 weeks and one day after the judge granted the divorce)!
Erin, who had "hoped against all hope" (Rom. 4:18), received her miracle on January 29, 1991 at 11:10 p.m. when I returned home to her and our four children. This was after adultery, and after divorce, just over two years after I had left her.
Restore Ministries International
Over the next five years, the Lord blessed us with three more babies as Erin continued to minister to other women. In 1996 the first version of How God Can and Will Restore Your Marriage, which was taken out of the workbook, was published. Thousands of requests for the book started coming in to Restore Ministries and the publishers from all over the U.S. and from abroad.
Soon many men began requesting their own restoration book, so Erin, with Dan's help, wrote a manual for men, A Wise Man Builds Upon a Rock: By A FOOL Who Built His On Sinking Sand and How God Will Restore Your Marriage: There's Healing after Broken Vows.
Eight years after I came home, God placed in my heart to give Erin a special wedding even though she never told me about her prayer. God was so faithful to His Word and gave Erin the "desires of her heart." And so on May 24, 1999 the gloriously restored Thiele family had a big beautiful wedding on our 20th Wedding Anniversary. If you would like to see our beautiful wedding.
In December of the same year, I sold my advertising business and went into ministry full time with Erin. Today, through Restore Ministries International, we now minister to men and women primarily over the Internet and through books, audio tapes, and video tapes. Just recently Springfield's newspaper, the Newleader, did an article on divorce, which featured our ministry and our testimony. Click here to read the article.
God is more than able to heal and save marriages, especially yours! The Lord's Word clearly holds both the truth and the power to change a seemingly hopeless situation.