Has anyone ever sued their xhusband? - 12/09/03 02:28 AM
I saw my Dr. today, and will be seeing another Dr. for the pain in my back and the left arm and shoulder that is in pain. The Dr. and I talked of the injury, and asked me if this topic ever came up of sueing the X. I said yes, through First STep, it was discussed. I really didn't want to sue my X, if I am labeled permanently injured the rest of my life. Seems that I am screwed anyway I turn or go forth with my life. He can move on forward, find a new job, cause he has worked as a furnace man all his life. Has a business that we started and I ran, and I have been JUST his wife and the mother of our children. I have NOTHING to show. Also, if I were to marry in the future, who would want a woman classified as disabled. This has never occurred to my X. See, he doesn't have the pain, and doesn't feel what I have to feel everyday. And the pain the Dr. felt today, the spasms were really bad. I told her I haven't slept well in about a week. She understood with the manipulation she did on my shoulder and neck. Anyways, we got into a little discussion as she proceeded with the EMG testing on my arms and neck. Discovered that I have the start of carpal tunnel on my right wrist. That is the arm that was injured back in 1990, and I had the 3 surgeries on the arm, and that is the arm that SNL decided to get physical with me.
We talked and I cried again. I said, why does it come down to the betrayed has to get mean, has to get tough, has to be the one to set boundaries, and maybe has to be the one who is going to tell SNL that I have to sue him? Why doesn't he forthrightly say, yes he injured me, and will cover all my medical expenses. As medicaid will end in the middle of February. When youngest son turns 18. He didn't even pay the Dr. all the money that he said he would for the shoulder surgery. So therefore, I have bad credit. Which if I sue X-husband, that will come up to, and the rest of the medical bills to get my credit cleared.
What SNL does, is wait and wait for the medical bills for years, and then goes for settling with the companies. Yes, they take a much lower amount of money. But in the meantime, credit is screwed. SNL has bad credit, and I did have good credit.
Sometimes, my life seems to be a nightmare. Wishing that I could just wake up and it all would be better.
Anyways, could some of you give me advice on how you would feel, would you sue, and the pros and cons. Yes, SNL has told me that if I don't cooperate with him, I will bear the consequences. A hold he has over me. Not fair, but I am the betrayed spouse.
Just asking for help on this one. Would be nice if one day I could live my own life. And not have to be under SNL's power still.
We talked and I cried again. I said, why does it come down to the betrayed has to get mean, has to get tough, has to be the one to set boundaries, and maybe has to be the one who is going to tell SNL that I have to sue him? Why doesn't he forthrightly say, yes he injured me, and will cover all my medical expenses. As medicaid will end in the middle of February. When youngest son turns 18. He didn't even pay the Dr. all the money that he said he would for the shoulder surgery. So therefore, I have bad credit. Which if I sue X-husband, that will come up to, and the rest of the medical bills to get my credit cleared.
What SNL does, is wait and wait for the medical bills for years, and then goes for settling with the companies. Yes, they take a much lower amount of money. But in the meantime, credit is screwed. SNL has bad credit, and I did have good credit.
Sometimes, my life seems to be a nightmare. Wishing that I could just wake up and it all would be better.
Anyways, could some of you give me advice on how you would feel, would you sue, and the pros and cons. Yes, SNL has told me that if I don't cooperate with him, I will bear the consequences. A hold he has over me. Not fair, but I am the betrayed spouse.
Just asking for help on this one. Would be nice if one day I could live my own life. And not have to be under SNL's power still.