Just sad - 09/14/04 03:07 AM
Well, I had our agreement drawn up and it clearly defines what expenses will be split 50/50. It honestly covers every little thing. It really reads like "Child Support for Dummies." Anyway, my attitude is better safe than sorry and I feel I have done a good job of getting in writing what is expected.
There is only one cost my XH refuses to split, the cost of church classes or CCD for the kids. I just find this so sad. He equated it to a hobby I share with the kids stating that if he takes them hunting he doesn't expect me to pay for it so if I want them to continue the church stuff I shouldn't expect him to pay for it.
I guess I shouldn't be suprised. My XH was one of those, "I don't really go to church, but will since it is important to you" people who then changed to a "I will go once we have kids because I think it is important for them to be raised with religion" people and finally didn't even put on the act simply refused to go kind of people. I was raised Catholic and continued to go without him, bringing the kids with me.
His new wife, the former OW, was also raised Catholic and still practices although she only goes on Christmas and Easter. In typical hypocritical style she drags all four kids and my XH along all dolled up for everyone to see. Who are they kidding? My kids always ask why they only go to church with them on the two holidays and I always decline to answer other than to say I don't know why and to ask them. Although her religious involvement is minimal, I guess I thought that with her upbringing she would still see its importance.
Of course this will not change anything. The kids will still go. They would no matter what the cost was. Funny thing is however that the cost is a total of $35.00 per year for all three of the school aged kids plus an occasional buck or two here for outings. It honestly is the cheapest of all the fees I spend on the kids. The fact that he is refusing it is in my mind just further proof of the type of person he truly is.
I guess I am not really expecting anything here. I just thought this was a really sad example of the type of person I am dealing with. He really doesn't have a clue.
Thanks for listening.
Take care and God bless!
K
There is only one cost my XH refuses to split, the cost of church classes or CCD for the kids. I just find this so sad. He equated it to a hobby I share with the kids stating that if he takes them hunting he doesn't expect me to pay for it so if I want them to continue the church stuff I shouldn't expect him to pay for it.
I guess I shouldn't be suprised. My XH was one of those, "I don't really go to church, but will since it is important to you" people who then changed to a "I will go once we have kids because I think it is important for them to be raised with religion" people and finally didn't even put on the act simply refused to go kind of people. I was raised Catholic and continued to go without him, bringing the kids with me.
His new wife, the former OW, was also raised Catholic and still practices although she only goes on Christmas and Easter. In typical hypocritical style she drags all four kids and my XH along all dolled up for everyone to see. Who are they kidding? My kids always ask why they only go to church with them on the two holidays and I always decline to answer other than to say I don't know why and to ask them. Although her religious involvement is minimal, I guess I thought that with her upbringing she would still see its importance.
Of course this will not change anything. The kids will still go. They would no matter what the cost was. Funny thing is however that the cost is a total of $35.00 per year for all three of the school aged kids plus an occasional buck or two here for outings. It honestly is the cheapest of all the fees I spend on the kids. The fact that he is refusing it is in my mind just further proof of the type of person he truly is.
I guess I am not really expecting anything here. I just thought this was a really sad example of the type of person I am dealing with. He really doesn't have a clue.
Thanks for listening.
Take care and God bless!
K