Round 2 - 05/20/00 02:37 PM
Well, I won Round 1, but didn't think there'd be a Round 2. Round 1 ended when H returned home 2 days after moving in with OW. He moved back after agreeing to work on our marriage and giving up OW. The day after moving back, OW showed him the paperwork that she was pregnant. H was very loving for about 2 weeks after that. (BTW, we have no children - our choice.)<P>Round 2: Then he quit talking and turned surly again. Night before last I got him to talk. He admitted that he doesn't know how he feels about the OC. I've made it clear to him that I'll accept the OC, but will accept no contact with OW except as it relates to OC. I told H that visitations should take place at our house, not hers. OW has apparently made it clear that *I* am not to have anything to do with OC. <P>Yesterday H moved in with a male friend for "a few days" to figure out how he's going to deal with OC. I told him I hoped he'd take my feelings into account and that there *was* a limit to what I can endure. <P>He admits this whole thing is a mid-life crisis and, finally, has agreed to see a counselor if he doesn't get himself straightened out. It also appears to me that his family has a history of depression. He is also talking about anti-depressants now. After not being able to say I love you all week, he did say it over the phone last night. I really think he does love me, but can't stand the pressure of the OC. <P>So I guess I'm asking for your thoughts and prayers that he *will* get to a counselor so we can get on with our lives. He likes to think he can do this on his own, but I really believe we need some outside help.<P>Thanks for being here. . .<P>Sue<BR>