Pops and Fullhouse - 01/01/04 12:44 AM
Pops, you asked a question in one of your posts about children accepting the OC. I have two children, 7 and 8. They have two older step-siblings from my H's first marriage. My children accepted, without question that they are their brother and sister. They don't even know that my H was married before and they don't care. They know that they have a big brother and big sister.
When they were introduced to the OC, they were delighted to have a "new sister". I fully agree with you that children accept or reject according to the feeling of the situation. If you seem embarrassed, upset, or have been crying non-stop for days, children get the message that was is happening is not good and they reject anything that upsets their beloved parents.
We took great care not to argue around the children or to say anything negative that would create bad impressions in their minds. My children are very well-adjusted and happy. They are growing into flexible people and I think that will serve them well in their life. There is too much narrow-mindedness in the world and I hope that my children will not contribute to that.
Also, the idea of family is evolving and changing and I want my children to understand that the old-fashioned, nuclear family is only one example of the type of family that can exist.
So, for me, there has been no problem with my children accepting half-siblings as their own brothers and sisters.
Fullhouse, I want to say that you should continue posting. I was driven off this board several times by people with overpowering opinions. You and Pops have a wonderful story to tell about reconciliation and blending and I would hate to see that story lost for the many out there who very much share your opinions.
I know that some people have hurled insults at you on this board and for that I am truly sorry. Ignore them. Keep helping those that you help. Some will always be beyond your reach.
I hope you will start posting again regularly. You are very much missed.
love,
heavenly
When they were introduced to the OC, they were delighted to have a "new sister". I fully agree with you that children accept or reject according to the feeling of the situation. If you seem embarrassed, upset, or have been crying non-stop for days, children get the message that was is happening is not good and they reject anything that upsets their beloved parents.
We took great care not to argue around the children or to say anything negative that would create bad impressions in their minds. My children are very well-adjusted and happy. They are growing into flexible people and I think that will serve them well in their life. There is too much narrow-mindedness in the world and I hope that my children will not contribute to that.
Also, the idea of family is evolving and changing and I want my children to understand that the old-fashioned, nuclear family is only one example of the type of family that can exist.
So, for me, there has been no problem with my children accepting half-siblings as their own brothers and sisters.
Fullhouse, I want to say that you should continue posting. I was driven off this board several times by people with overpowering opinions. You and Pops have a wonderful story to tell about reconciliation and blending and I would hate to see that story lost for the many out there who very much share your opinions.
I know that some people have hurled insults at you on this board and for that I am truly sorry. Ignore them. Keep helping those that you help. Some will always be beyond your reach.
I hope you will start posting again regularly. You are very much missed.
love,
heavenly