ITS A BOY!!! - 04/03/04 12:45 PM
As per a dear friend here I was advised that some of the people here on the public board may want to hear some good news. I ususally only post on the private now since my story, and particularly the hard times I have faced, has become the example of "karma" to others (not on MB), unfortunately w/o my consent.
Anyway I thought you may want to hear some good that has come from a situation that had a rough start.
Well to those who do remember me we now have a brand new bouncing baby boy!
He arrived on St Patricks Day, his actual due date...and all went very well. He was 8 lbs, 6 oz, and 20 inches long. I began labor at 9 am and he came into the world at 1:12pm.
As some of you may remember there were alot of hurt feelings regarding my being pregnant, in that my H was pretty much done wanting kids and I wanted one more. My H held alot of anger and resentment inside for a long time. We had a therapy session regarding it all that completely went south and the feelings really got the better of both of us. But just before the birth my H changed.
And then our son was born and my H seems to be a new man. And it has been inspiring me to try to find that true forgiveness that will allow me to accept all the hurt that we have bestowed upon each other as all part of a learning experience.
I have begun to work on me, to find that peace within myself, to see his pain for what it is and to help him heal as well. For the first time I am finally feeling as if I want to be able to say "I forgive you..."
It has been so strange. He has been home since the birth and we have had probably the best few weeks we have ever had in the past 4 years. My girlfriend (of 25 years who happened to be there for the delivery, and knows everything and has been an active support for me), said that just after the baby was born my H had tears in his eyes, and I was so happy that he got to hold him for the first 5 minutes of his life.
Since I have been home he has been so helpful, patient and caring. We have been communicating better, and on a deeper level. I think that with all that has happened we have reached an understanding of what it means to love and to have a will that is so strong that even the potentially worst situations can bring good. My H and I are beginning to come full circle, and like I said the peace within that is incredible.
For anyone that I have lost touch with please PM me or e-mail me again and catch up. I have been so busy with everything here. I will be trying to catch up with any old e-mails as soon as Easter is over. I am so sorry for not keeping in touch but preparing for the baby and then trying to settle in has kept me from the computer. I will be trying to catch up with all the new people and situations over the next few weeks!
Hugs to all!
NGU
<small>[ April 03, 2004, 07:18 AM: Message edited by: Not Giving Up ]</small>
Anyway I thought you may want to hear some good that has come from a situation that had a rough start.
Well to those who do remember me we now have a brand new bouncing baby boy!
He arrived on St Patricks Day, his actual due date...and all went very well. He was 8 lbs, 6 oz, and 20 inches long. I began labor at 9 am and he came into the world at 1:12pm.
As some of you may remember there were alot of hurt feelings regarding my being pregnant, in that my H was pretty much done wanting kids and I wanted one more. My H held alot of anger and resentment inside for a long time. We had a therapy session regarding it all that completely went south and the feelings really got the better of both of us. But just before the birth my H changed.
And then our son was born and my H seems to be a new man. And it has been inspiring me to try to find that true forgiveness that will allow me to accept all the hurt that we have bestowed upon each other as all part of a learning experience.
I have begun to work on me, to find that peace within myself, to see his pain for what it is and to help him heal as well. For the first time I am finally feeling as if I want to be able to say "I forgive you..."
It has been so strange. He has been home since the birth and we have had probably the best few weeks we have ever had in the past 4 years. My girlfriend (of 25 years who happened to be there for the delivery, and knows everything and has been an active support for me), said that just after the baby was born my H had tears in his eyes, and I was so happy that he got to hold him for the first 5 minutes of his life.
Since I have been home he has been so helpful, patient and caring. We have been communicating better, and on a deeper level. I think that with all that has happened we have reached an understanding of what it means to love and to have a will that is so strong that even the potentially worst situations can bring good. My H and I are beginning to come full circle, and like I said the peace within that is incredible.
For anyone that I have lost touch with please PM me or e-mail me again and catch up. I have been so busy with everything here. I will be trying to catch up with any old e-mails as soon as Easter is over. I am so sorry for not keeping in touch but preparing for the baby and then trying to settle in has kept me from the computer. I will be trying to catch up with all the new people and situations over the next few weeks!
Hugs to all!
NGU
<small>[ April 03, 2004, 07:18 AM: Message edited by: Not Giving Up ]</small>