spoke to ANOTHER attorney --more hope - 04/07/04 04:03 PM
This lady knows her stuff!!!!! Huge difference just in her demeanor and prescence than that other stupid lawyer we had!!!!! This woman spoke w/ authority!
She looked @ our current custody agreement and just about laughed, like the other guy. Agreeing that it is just about worthless but that can work in our favor becuase it was nothing permament so we can make changes.
She asked us to tell her what our problems and issues were w/ OW so she can address them legally in the agreement to make solutions. She has tons of experience.
@ the end I even approached her about OW's disturbing emails and getting off track about her personal issues instead of OC. The attorney said that we could put into the agreement (more legally sounding of course) that all conversations/communication are ONLY to be about the minor child------anything else would be considered CONTEMPT!!!!!!!!!!
Right now our parental agreement is not enforceable so that is dangerous for us AND for OW. We knew that. OW could be doing whatever she wants right now BUT so could we.
Also she is going to look into having the custody part of the case be transferred to OUR county, possible since there has not been a permament custody order. CS order will stay in OW county/jurisdiction but if the custody was not permament. (which is 'bout near impossible that it would have been, since our agreement was so shoddily done)
That would be great! Let OW have to drive to us for a change and she can be all nervous and feel out of whack having to go into "unfamiliar territory"..Oh that would be so nice!!!!!!
There is a movie theater and everything right across the street from the courthouse----H and I could go celebrate afterwards, have lunch, see a movie!........oh wait I am getting ahead of myself already!!!!!!! Maybe OW will even get lost or be too late and we would win by default!!!hahahaha That would be nice.
But anyway, the lawyer explained and showed us the PROPER paperwork that would be filled out to avoid ANY personal interpretation and confusion. Any cop would be able to read it and know exactly WHO'S time it is.
We asked her about making it straight 50/50, every other week, to make it even clearer. She was very straight out and up front about what would be realistic and most likely.
She was strictly business and assertive. Even when she said her fees, she said it in a no nonsense, non-apologetic way--------she knows she is worth her $$$$. I think so too.
I hope so. My H and I felt real comfortable w/ and confident in her.
So the next step is getting the $$$ to retain her. I will do whatever I have to, have a yard sale every weekend, H will work his butt off to get this cleared up and get the peace restored to our lives, home and family.
This is gonna be good!!!!!!I can't wait!!!!!
I wish I could see OW face when she gets "served"! HAHAHAHAH. That is going to be soooo great! And when OW reads everything that she can't possibly misinterpret to her own whim! IT will be clear, straightforward and precise! NO more arguing. OW won't be able to PRETEND she didn't agree to something because it will be on there, clear as day, in black and white!!!!!
And before any one or any lurking troll thinks I am enjoying this way too much! You're right. I deserve it. This OW came into my life, uninvited and has made it hell! It's time someone put HER in her place! OC is IN our life but that does not mean I have to put up w/ her idiot mother's antics and allow her to continue to hurt me or my family just because SHE has personal issues and has no back bone to take care of herself!
I do! And I and my H are going to stand up and NOT allow her to call the shots anymore! C is more to us then just "weekend daddy" that pays hefty CS. C to us is asserting ALL my H rights as OC father and that means 50/50 and we will pay what we are required!
OW want C for their OC then they need to realize that this is for REAL! My H is a real father not just some token dad! No child deserves that. OW everywhere should actually be on our side because we are giving OC everything STOW (stereo-typicalOW) are always whining about: a REAL father!
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On a day like today, it's good to have a friend like you!
She looked @ our current custody agreement and just about laughed, like the other guy. Agreeing that it is just about worthless but that can work in our favor becuase it was nothing permament so we can make changes.
She asked us to tell her what our problems and issues were w/ OW so she can address them legally in the agreement to make solutions. She has tons of experience.
@ the end I even approached her about OW's disturbing emails and getting off track about her personal issues instead of OC. The attorney said that we could put into the agreement (more legally sounding of course) that all conversations/communication are ONLY to be about the minor child------anything else would be considered CONTEMPT!!!!!!!!!!
Right now our parental agreement is not enforceable so that is dangerous for us AND for OW. We knew that. OW could be doing whatever she wants right now BUT so could we.
Also she is going to look into having the custody part of the case be transferred to OUR county, possible since there has not been a permament custody order. CS order will stay in OW county/jurisdiction but if the custody was not permament. (which is 'bout near impossible that it would have been, since our agreement was so shoddily done)
That would be great! Let OW have to drive to us for a change and she can be all nervous and feel out of whack having to go into "unfamiliar territory"..Oh that would be so nice!!!!!!
There is a movie theater and everything right across the street from the courthouse----H and I could go celebrate afterwards, have lunch, see a movie!........oh wait I am getting ahead of myself already!!!!!!! Maybe OW will even get lost or be too late and we would win by default!!!hahahaha That would be nice.
But anyway, the lawyer explained and showed us the PROPER paperwork that would be filled out to avoid ANY personal interpretation and confusion. Any cop would be able to read it and know exactly WHO'S time it is.
We asked her about making it straight 50/50, every other week, to make it even clearer. She was very straight out and up front about what would be realistic and most likely.
She was strictly business and assertive. Even when she said her fees, she said it in a no nonsense, non-apologetic way--------she knows she is worth her $$$$. I think so too.
I hope so. My H and I felt real comfortable w/ and confident in her.
So the next step is getting the $$$ to retain her. I will do whatever I have to, have a yard sale every weekend, H will work his butt off to get this cleared up and get the peace restored to our lives, home and family.
This is gonna be good!!!!!!I can't wait!!!!!
I wish I could see OW face when she gets "served"! HAHAHAHAH. That is going to be soooo great! And when OW reads everything that she can't possibly misinterpret to her own whim! IT will be clear, straightforward and precise! NO more arguing. OW won't be able to PRETEND she didn't agree to something because it will be on there, clear as day, in black and white!!!!!
And before any one or any lurking troll thinks I am enjoying this way too much! You're right. I deserve it. This OW came into my life, uninvited and has made it hell! It's time someone put HER in her place! OC is IN our life but that does not mean I have to put up w/ her idiot mother's antics and allow her to continue to hurt me or my family just because SHE has personal issues and has no back bone to take care of herself!
I do! And I and my H are going to stand up and NOT allow her to call the shots anymore! C is more to us then just "weekend daddy" that pays hefty CS. C to us is asserting ALL my H rights as OC father and that means 50/50 and we will pay what we are required!
OW want C for their OC then they need to realize that this is for REAL! My H is a real father not just some token dad! No child deserves that. OW everywhere should actually be on our side because we are giving OC everything STOW (stereo-typicalOW) are always whining about: a REAL father!
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On a day like today, it's good to have a friend like you!