In another time I enjoyed Valentine's Day. My XWH would bring me flowers and we would go out as a family.

Just thinking about when XWH "was a real boy" before he turned into pinochio and his nose started growing.

How will I survive tomorrow. Took a cleaning job for about 4 hours just to fill the day.

Did you see my post earlier today on my thread? I went loopy there for a short while.

Thankfully, I came to my senses before it was too late and I really regretted what I'd done.

I'm going to pull one of my old, unused space heaters up from the basement, put it into my garage tomorrow, and clean my car (it's been weeks and the mix of soil, sand, salt and grime are just getting to me).

It's my Valentine to myself.

Make sure you get a box of chocolates in a heart shaped box while you clean out our car.

Sorry, I'm only cleaning my car. All others will have to wait.

those chocolates are for you! lol

Do what I would do, watch a "man" movie (Missing in Action, or Air Force One, or Terminator 2, or something) and eat nachos all day. You run enough that you can eat like a pig without worrying anyway!

I've already noticed that Valentines Day is going to be tough for me. Just a month and a half out of D-Day and still separated with no hope in sight. My WW and I used to have a great time on Valentines Day and so it hurts a lot.

I will probably sleep in and then watch the NBA all-star game with family. I hope the day won't be too bad.

LOL Karma, Geez wish I could. My son (10) usually loves T2, AF1, and all other action movies like that. But now...he is on this trend..."Father of the Bride", "Wedding Crashers", any romance lovey dovey movies.

I try to go into the other room and do work, but I hear it all no matter how much I try to block.

As far as pigging out...still no appetite. Best diet in the world, but seriously I'd rather be 25 lbs overweight and be happy than be on this dang diet.

Yep, V-Day sucks!

This is the first Valentine's Day without my WH since I was 16(18 years ago today was our first date). It is my parent's anniversary and my Mom is living with her AP. I bought my kids a valentine's present, but this year i am celebrating something else today.

HAPPY CHINESE NEW YEAR It is the year of the tiger.

Perhaps all us BSs will turn into Tigers this year to tame our WSs.

Valentine's Day two years ago -- the one time I went face to face with OW. The story is on my thread. Basically, I barged into her house, WH defended HER and threw me up against the door, OW tried to punch me and called the cops, WH threw me out of her house, and I later had to retrieve my glasses.

My kids were proud of me for standing up to her and him. He and her were "back on" after I "scared" her.

Whoda thunk that two years later we'd be going through a D?

Maybe I'll send WH a text today... Happy Jerry Springer Day.

What I decided to do (about a week ago) is to buy a $20 supermarket gift card and give it to someone today (Valentine's Day).

The criteria of giving it is to either

a panhandler
or
a family taking a walk with the kids
or
an elderly person (even if they have the dough...it is useful).

And

I will also celebrate Chinese New Year : )

That is so awesome, Reading. True conditional love. Jesus will be proud!!!

That's a very good idea. Helping others always seems to help yourself. I feel better about myself when I can help put a smile on others faces.

Hey Holyheart,

your as good as Tiger Wood's golf club swing BS .....Way to Go!!!!

I don't know......it didn't bother me all that much. I had chaibaby today which took my mind off things. He's my new Valentine.

Maybe I am recovered even more than I thought.

ITA- Happy Valentine's Day Chai!

No real triggers here today. FWW surprised me with a nice chocolate cake that really went down well . Yes, once or twice I did wonder what VD might have meant to her and the OM during the A, but it's really mostly thoughts, not feelings.

Almost five years out from DD here, BTW.

What date, MiM? I'm 26 March 2005.

Valentines day means nothing to me.

Nothing.

It's nothing more than some thought up religious holiday promoting fornication based on the aleged actions of an unproven sain't.

Funny how it falls on the lunar new year so the religious fanatics could include the savages in their control.

End of April / Early May. It was more like D-Week instead of D-Day. What a nightmare. See "MiM's Story" for further details.

Only a week?

I happened to have an old page from the Recovery forum open when I read your reply. You were on the page from February 2006, stating that you had just had D Day 4, on which your wife confessed to a few occasions of kissing after the PA ended.

In my own case, I refer to 26 March 2005 as D Day, when in reality that isn't true either. That was the day that I discovered that the affair I had first discovered when it was about 2 months old, in March 2003, has simply gone underground and continued for a solid two years more. 26 March 2005 was the 2-year anniversary almost to the day of D Day 1.

I kidded myself that we could recover by goodwill after D Day 1 (2003), so when I found a sex message in 2005, the trauma of a second discovery was much worse than the original. I buried my grief after D Day 2003, but in 2005 I plunged into the most terrible period of mourning. THAT is when I did the infidelity diet, the drinking, the madness and the depression. I tend to refer to 2005 because that is when I hit rock bottom.

However, H was a cake-eater, so he kept asking me to recommit and I kept doing so. I had another 2 major D Days, the last in August 2006. After that date, my H stopped travelling abroad or spending any nights away from me.

However, because the EA (phone calls from the office landline, which I could not monitor) continued after August 2006, I eventually exposed to OWH in January 2007. After that, he found out a lot more details, which I was glad of, because I wanted to know them all. However, between OWH's filling me in, and my own H's grudging admittance to the truth of what OWH said, I got quite devastating facts until about September 2007.

Dear me, that was a long D Day. March 2003 to September 2007. Sometimes I think of what I went through and cannot believe I survived.

Hmm.. Can't remember that, but if that did happened, the "kissing" occurred before her confession during the week I mentioned above. According to her, there wasn't any semblance of kissing or other close contact after that week. They did continue to communicate via IM (and of course they did work together) for a short while afterwards.

Your experience seems to have been a bit more gruelling. I think I would have gone crazy of she continued to engage in the PA post D-Day.

Valentine's Day is still triggery for me. I had a hard time finding a card for H that wasn't sickenly syrupy. Found one and with my luck of course...of all the lines I could go to...my cashier has the name of skankho.

V-Day kind of sucked.

This time of year, I thank God for a MIRACLE!!!

I did.

Ok I am truly at a loss of what to do with this thing. Xh came to drop ds off last night after his weekend with dad. He hands me a knitted scarf as my valentines day present. Ds announces xh wife (ow) knitted it for me. It is also my favorite color. While trying to keep my gag reflex in check I had to pretend I was trying to keep the puppy from the door just to look busy. Xh wife( ow) was watching me over his shoulder the whole time. What does she think this will make me like her. I want nothing to do with the woman and NO we cannot be friends.
My husband came home and looked at it with a weird eye and said shredder or Bon fire?

So MB community what say you?

Noose.

Donate it to the thrift store she frequents. Or to the panhandler near the mall she frequents.

You might have the prize winning "worst Valentine's Day" present. Didn't see a thread this year, but I'm sure yours would qualify for one of the WORST. What are these people thinking??????

I know it's been years since this all went down... But do they really believe I will just forget what happened and "accept" them. I truthfully want nothing to do with them. I do what I have to for my son other than that I don't try to interact with them.

Tie it to the back bumper of your car.
Drag it around until it shreds apart.

Three words:
Plain Brown Wrapper

Returned to sender.

i kinda liked the bon fire idea you threw out in the begining, but that's just me.

I like all these ideas may have to put them on a hat and pull one out it is so hard to choose. Bad thing is it was given under the guise of a gift from my son.

Ooh, I like that idea...

I'd wrap the damn scarf around her neck and strangle her with it for using my child that way, but that's just me.

Maybe you can just explain to your son and to the OW that you only accept gifts from family and friends and she is neither.

*Then* give it to the panhandler at the mall.

Build a big snowman in your front yard (hopefully you have some snow), tie it on it's neck and put a large "L" on it's forehead.

@ SIHW : Ds announces xh wife (ow) knitted it for me. It is also my favorite color. While trying to keep my gag reflex in check I had to pretend I was trying to keep the puppy from the door just to look busy.


I say give it to the puppy as a scarf, chew toy if you stuff it and sew the sides together, or sew it together as a jacket for the puppy.

Love the thrift store/panhandler idea. Do you have a bird? Maybe a cage liner a day or two before they come over again. Do you have a puppy? A pig?

We have a VERY high energy malinois pup. She is great at distroying things. Hmmmm. Oh darn the puppy got to it,. Well at least someone had use for it.

Unravel it and spell out Immoral Woman (or perhaps something a little shorter) in macrame?

Re-gift it !!!!!!!! to her next v-day or X-mas if you don't want to wait that long

Find a nice homeless woman and give it to her. Try to make the bad into good.

Think warm thoughts about OW roasting on a fire.

It's over...yiphee

oh...that..is..priceless!

I mean, your H gave it the stinkeye, even. Couldn't you make that snowman holding out the scarf in one limb hand, and the other arm could be plugging his nose?

Valentines day 7 years ago was the first time I met OC.

She was so teeny-tiny.

Very bittersweet, Valentines day.