What do I do? - 10/28/14 12:20 PM
I just found out my husband had a one night stand. It was with someone he didnt know. Met her at a club that day, rented a room and had sex with her. We have been married 2 and half years, we have a 19month old and i am currently pregnant. I never denied him sex so he was definitely getting enough. The one night stand was before the pregnancy
Before we got married i had caught him cheating (met them in the room in bed). He had begged and begged and i forgave him and then we married.
He recently moved to asia for work last week and i was doing his laundry on sunday night when i saw a used condom in his pocket. I called him and asked and he said it was probably an old one from before marriage that he kept there or something. Infact he said he was expecting me to tell him that i was just pulling his legs.
And then i checked the manufacture date, it was 2014. I told him and he said he doesnt know how it got there, but its not his as he would never cheat on me.
Oh well, i got upset and hurt as i was heartbroken that he denied as it meant he wasnt sorry. After much back and forth, he then confesses that he is sorry. That he had a one night stand with someone he didnt know in a hotel. It hurts honestly. he left me at home, went to a hotel, slept with someone and then came back home to meet me like nothing happened.
Right now i am devastated, heart broken, hurt and pregnant. I dont even know where to go or how to handle this. I believe that the fact that i let him off easily the first time played a part in the second cheating. I dont even know. Please i am helpless and confused. I just want to cry and cry all day and night.Please i need advice, i need help. Thankfully he is far away in asia. We were supposed to go and visit him next week for holiday but i am cancelling the trip as i cant go through with it.
Please help.
Before we got married i had caught him cheating (met them in the room in bed). He had begged and begged and i forgave him and then we married.
He recently moved to asia for work last week and i was doing his laundry on sunday night when i saw a used condom in his pocket. I called him and asked and he said it was probably an old one from before marriage that he kept there or something. Infact he said he was expecting me to tell him that i was just pulling his legs.
And then i checked the manufacture date, it was 2014. I told him and he said he doesnt know how it got there, but its not his as he would never cheat on me.
Oh well, i got upset and hurt as i was heartbroken that he denied as it meant he wasnt sorry. After much back and forth, he then confesses that he is sorry. That he had a one night stand with someone he didnt know in a hotel. It hurts honestly. he left me at home, went to a hotel, slept with someone and then came back home to meet me like nothing happened.
Right now i am devastated, heart broken, hurt and pregnant. I dont even know where to go or how to handle this. I believe that the fact that i let him off easily the first time played a part in the second cheating. I dont even know. Please i am helpless and confused. I just want to cry and cry all day and night.Please i need advice, i need help. Thankfully he is far away in asia. We were supposed to go and visit him next week for holiday but i am cancelling the trip as i cant go through with it.
Please help.