Did he Cheat? - 04/17/18 10:02 PM
Hello. My mind is going crazy right now and I would love some feedback on my situation. I have been with my husband for 15 years with no major issues. No cheating at all. Until recently.
My husband decided it was ok to become friends with a female coworker. She offered her number to him and for some reason he took it. He says if was just as friends and he actually confirmed that before taking it. The thing is that he didn�t tell me about this friendship for 2 weeks! I Haden no idea they were friends and texting daily. However, he was the one who told me. One day I asked who he was messaging and Hebrew told me his new friend. I freaked out. He told me they were just friends but after about 5 days he agreed he should be doing it ignorant it�s hurting me so he stopped. He sent her a text and told her they couldn�t text anymore. I told him to delete her contact. He did but when he he deleted the contact then he deleted the message. I did not get to see it. After he messaged her he didn�t hide his phone and i seen her response. It said �I told you to be honest with her from the beginning� and that�s all it said.
I asked him if he had eve ever gone anyplace with her and he admitted that she attended a work party a week before. I messaged my friends husband who was also at the party. He said she showed up late and he thought she was with one of the other guys. He also said she attends the same gym as him. He agreed to switch gyms if it wouldn�t make me feel better.
I know for a fact he didn�t not sleep with this woman. He came home from work everyday he knew her and was never out. I also caught a message to his brother saying he never touched her. He did tell him how hot Shen was though.
So, I am trying to decide if this is cheating or if he did something great by recognizing the potential issue telling me about it as soon as he realized it was wrong ans trying to fix what he did. What do you think? Is he a cheater or a man who made a small mistake?
My husband decided it was ok to become friends with a female coworker. She offered her number to him and for some reason he took it. He says if was just as friends and he actually confirmed that before taking it. The thing is that he didn�t tell me about this friendship for 2 weeks! I Haden no idea they were friends and texting daily. However, he was the one who told me. One day I asked who he was messaging and Hebrew told me his new friend. I freaked out. He told me they were just friends but after about 5 days he agreed he should be doing it ignorant it�s hurting me so he stopped. He sent her a text and told her they couldn�t text anymore. I told him to delete her contact. He did but when he he deleted the contact then he deleted the message. I did not get to see it. After he messaged her he didn�t hide his phone and i seen her response. It said �I told you to be honest with her from the beginning� and that�s all it said.
I asked him if he had eve ever gone anyplace with her and he admitted that she attended a work party a week before. I messaged my friends husband who was also at the party. He said she showed up late and he thought she was with one of the other guys. He also said she attends the same gym as him. He agreed to switch gyms if it wouldn�t make me feel better.
I know for a fact he didn�t not sleep with this woman. He came home from work everyday he knew her and was never out. I also caught a message to his brother saying he never touched her. He did tell him how hot Shen was though.
So, I am trying to decide if this is cheating or if he did something great by recognizing the potential issue telling me about it as soon as he realized it was wrong ans trying to fix what he did. What do you think? Is he a cheater or a man who made a small mistake?