Can serial cheaters stop? - 09/30/21 02:58 AM
Hello.
I have been married to my wife for 8 years. We have 2 boys. There's a difference of 14 years between us. I married her when she was 19. I was 33. When I met her... She was doing a lot of chatting with different guys, dressing sexy, etc... I just thought she's just young and curious. First 4 years of marriage we were long distance. She was in the Philippines. Now she's in UK for almost 4 years. March this year I found her home with a guy. She said nothing happen and we decided to fix our marriage. Now in September I caught her chatting the same guy on an unknown messenger. I started digging and she has been seeing him since March 2020. Also from digging I found out she's cheated on me prior to her coming to the UK, after we had our first boy. As far as I know, she cheated on me for 8 years, except the times she was pregnant. She still likes dressing sexy and posting sexy stuff on social media. I have read a lot... And apparently she is a narcissist and a habitual cheater.
I never cheated on her. I love her a lot, and love my boys. I asked her to take couple counselling with me. She refused. All I found out I had to dig on my own. She never opened and she was never honest to me, even after she got caught.
Can I hope she will ever change? Am I fighting for a lost cause?
I have been married to my wife for 8 years. We have 2 boys. There's a difference of 14 years between us. I married her when she was 19. I was 33. When I met her... She was doing a lot of chatting with different guys, dressing sexy, etc... I just thought she's just young and curious. First 4 years of marriage we were long distance. She was in the Philippines. Now she's in UK for almost 4 years. March this year I found her home with a guy. She said nothing happen and we decided to fix our marriage. Now in September I caught her chatting the same guy on an unknown messenger. I started digging and she has been seeing him since March 2020. Also from digging I found out she's cheated on me prior to her coming to the UK, after we had our first boy. As far as I know, she cheated on me for 8 years, except the times she was pregnant. She still likes dressing sexy and posting sexy stuff on social media. I have read a lot... And apparently she is a narcissist and a habitual cheater.
I never cheated on her. I love her a lot, and love my boys. I asked her to take couple counselling with me. She refused. All I found out I had to dig on my own. She never opened and she was never honest to me, even after she got caught.
Can I hope she will ever change? Am I fighting for a lost cause?