Husbands porn addiction is becoming a deal breaker - 05/30/12 04:49 PM
Originally Posted by Fireproof
The purpose of this forum is to discuss and learn Marriage Builders concepts, not to share personal philosophies.
Originally Posted by BrainHurts
Gr,
Did you listen to the radio clips on porn that I posted? What did you think about what Dr. Harley said?
Did you listen to the radio clips on porn that I posted? What did you think about what Dr. Harley said?
I listened to these radio clips but to me they bring up more questions than answers. I guess I still don't understand how some of this advice is supposed to fit together with other Marriage Builders principles like radical honesty and the policy of joint agreement. I understand that many men will certainly act like they enthusiastically agree that porn is wrong and promise to never view it and maybe they even believe it themselves when directly confronted about it but how much of this ends up being for real and how much turns out to be nothing more than a case of telling people what they want to hear?
I look around and see perfectly decent men that wouldn't ever be caught telling lies or cheating in any other everyday situation go ahead and make a special exception and act very sneaky in this one case. And why wouldn't they when they know full well that if they tell the truth about it that they actually like porn and don't really want to stop viewing it if it was up to them then it simply will not go over very well? If every other available option is more painful by comparison then why is it any surprise than many of them will take the path of least resistance and hide the truth at all costs because what their wives don't know won't hurt them?