When mental illness "causes" affairs - 10/16/14 06:07 PM
This isn't for me but for a friend who has been struggling with affairs. Yes, plural "affairs." I'm talking more than I can count.
I've tried getting her on the MB site but she hasn't yet that I know of. She has been having affairs for years, and as far as I know her BH knows about them (or some of them, since even I don't know about them all, I'm sure), but no matter how hard she tries to quit, she can't. She has been diagnosed with a mental illness, but so far the medicine hasn't helped her to stop the compulsive behavior. If indeed she has a mental illness, is there any way for her to stop? She's terrible with setting boundaries, and her BH doesn't enforce them either.
Is it possible she doesn't actually have a mental illness, and if she doesn't, then what is causing her to act so compulsively? These affair partners are totally random people she meets everywhere she goes, not anyone she is in love with, so it makes no sense to me and I honestly don't know how to help her.
She's felt suicidal over it, but her BH doesn't really get involved in helping her stop. He tries to romance her, but it's not working to fill her love bank.
I'm baffled on how to help her because the mental illness takes the blame, but certainly she can't go on living like this destructive behavior. What advice can I give her?
I've tried getting her on the MB site but she hasn't yet that I know of. She has been having affairs for years, and as far as I know her BH knows about them (or some of them, since even I don't know about them all, I'm sure), but no matter how hard she tries to quit, she can't. She has been diagnosed with a mental illness, but so far the medicine hasn't helped her to stop the compulsive behavior. If indeed she has a mental illness, is there any way for her to stop? She's terrible with setting boundaries, and her BH doesn't enforce them either.
Is it possible she doesn't actually have a mental illness, and if she doesn't, then what is causing her to act so compulsively? These affair partners are totally random people she meets everywhere she goes, not anyone she is in love with, so it makes no sense to me and I honestly don't know how to help her.
She's felt suicidal over it, but her BH doesn't really get involved in helping her stop. He tries to romance her, but it's not working to fill her love bank.
I'm baffled on how to help her because the mental illness takes the blame, but certainly she can't go on living like this destructive behavior. What advice can I give her?