How many sexual (intercourse) partners have you had to date (does not include multiple times with same person)

How come none of the guys are answering??

I don't get it.

I haven't HAD to date anybody!

I don't understand the question.

Hey GreenEyes. What if your partner was schizo? Would that count as multiples? <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" />

Also, depending on the time of the month, I've been with W and I've been with her evil twin sister! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" />

You mean you can't read my mind as to what I meant...geesh..LOL I meant from the time you lost your virginty to NOW (to date)

LOL FireandIce I should have known you'd had a smart a$$ comment....ROTF No they don't count LOL

I am the only person who chose "1-5"...good lawdy! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/eek.gif" alt="" />

No you're not! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/wink.gif" alt="" />

I'm in the club too!

But seriously, folks. My W has been my one-and-only.

I used to think that was noble. Now it just seems naive.

My xH was my one and only. After my divorce I've had a few more. More than I thought I would. Things happen. You date someone for a while, then you break up. I didn't sow any wild oats before I got married... and I'm not going "wild" now, but I've also learned a few hard "dating" lessons after my divorce.

The majority of the women have had 6-20 partners, while the majority of the men have had 5 or less.


Based upon the results of this poll it looks like when dating the women are having more fun than the guys.

Sounds like the old stereotype needs revision.

I'd dying to know who the 51+ person is! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/eek.gif" alt="" />

I have to say, I'm proud to be in the 1-5 club. That 1-5 encompasses my 2, which I married....I don't think it's naive, either....

I'm wondering - what is the purpose of this "vote"? Did you intend for there to be dialogue about it in this (or a future) thread?

I'm not sure I understand the point, either. Remember, even though this forum is not about an existing marriage, this IS Marriage Builders. Which of the MB principles would you tie into this particular poll?

I suppose it could be valuable in evaluating one's (our own) behavior, in comparison to others? and the general trends of the members here (assuming the voters are usual members, of course). We have lots of discussions on here about our various beliefs and behaviors, but putting it in a poll format allows us to see the numbers. I'm sure allurin has her reasons, when she comes back around... but I'm just taking a stab....

YIKES! The ladies are looking a little wild.

Why is intercourse the standard?

My 2 cents-
I wouldn't feel very significant with a partner who crunched the numbers!

alluring, I used to care when I was first dating but to be honest it doesn't matter after a while-

Natalie

This is exactly right on Faith1. Without asking people to come out and put a number (high or low) with their name it was a way of anonymously having their say. It was more of a curiosity thing than anything else and quite honestly I don't see why anyone would question the reason for it. If people were uncomfortable with the question then don't participate. Simple as that. I think it's quite interesting with the results so far. I agree with Justin... I would have thought the male numbers would have been higher than the female numbers.

And I don't want to know who voted for what. That wasn't the purpose of this. The purpose was to see how the men faired against the women and vice versa. The fact that one or more people owned up to their votes had nothing to do with the actual reason for the poll.

Hope my answer clears this up.

And thank you everyone who has voted so far. It really is quite interesting. It's not something you would ever walk up to someone and say... "I'm taking a poll, How many people have you slept with?"

Given the numbers for the ladies and the men, I have to conclude that a minority of men are getting more than their fair share. No doubt these are either the Bad Boys, or the the guys who are their own Man. I wonder which?

hmmm good question. I say the bad boys. But then again...what do I know...LOL

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If people were uncomfortable with the question then don't participate. Simple as that.

I don't think anyone was uncomfortable--I think Tempest was commenting as a Moderator, making sure that the question was within the confines of Marriage Building....

Well, I read the results a bit differently... Looks to me like in the sample group, the boys are quite boring, while the women sure do get around. Does that mean that "Real Men Don't Do MB"?? <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/frown.gif" alt="" />

AGG

AGG~~

It's makes me believe that there really is a difference in men.
The guys that come here must be more sensitive to relationships, want to learn and grow from what has happened, and really care about a future relationship with the right person.

In that case,
I would prefer a MB kind of guy!

Karona

I think current age should have been a part of this "poll"..
as well as, some other criteria..times M, years single, etc.

AGG:
Do you really think that quantity wins out?

Your "Real Men" thought would make a good subject for a new post. I think I'll check out everyone's opinion.



Karona: You are The Bomb!!! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/cool.gif" alt="" />

FR

Real Men Don't Do MB?

or "Bad boys don't do MB"

This has been discussed before.

But I like what Justin said, it's better to be a Good Man than a Nice Guy.


Well-said, Karona! That's what I was thinking, but couldn't put my words together.

I was also trying to think along the lines of the old thought that women give sex to get love, and men give love to get sex. Maybe we have that group here.

Karona:
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In that case, I would prefer a MB kind of guy!



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You are The Bomb!!!

FR

FR,
Takes one to know one!!! [nah! nahh!!]
Thanks just the same.

K!

Faith~
Glad you agreed!

K!

while all of that would have been nice to know I was trying to make it as simple as possible and as anonymous as possible.

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I agree with Karona...an MB man would be the perfect man!

Oh gosh NO!! My quote was done with tongue firmly in cheek!! I am the classic "boring nice guy", but I consider myself to be more of a real man than any bad boy. Hey, I am a great dad, what bad boy can say that?

However, it does make you think - obviously the prolific women are not getting their kicks from the MB-type boys, so what gives? On the one hand, they seem to say "give me an MB man anytime!", on the other, my math tells me that that is not what they are doing.

Something is not adding up to me, that's all.

AGG

Personally, that's why I'm here, to learn what I may be doing wrong, and to do better. Remember my constant struggle to "raise the bar"? I hope you're not putting anyone down, since we are all here to help each other. I haven't made the wisest choices, although my "number" isn't THAT high.

But, I'm obviously still single, and I obviously haven't found what I want in life, and I'm learning and growing every day. You see my "reading" thread? You see me here, trying to learn?

That's just me. Can't speak for anyone else. Yep - I want a "Good man". Why are all you "good men" here? Single? Still searching for Ms. Right? Either you're still learning and growing, or she hasn't come into your life yet.

I'll be the first to admit that's not what I've been doing. I'm trying to change that though. I am trying my darnest to be a MB woman by flat out stating what my needs are and hopefully J will become an MB man by seeing me changing my actions because I want to change...it's still to early to determine if it will work or not but that's my goal. Should it not work out with him then at least I'll be the person I desire to be for the next man I date, who WILL already be a MB man, in a perfect world. LOL

You know, when I was 21, I really wanted a virgin. Now, however, I really would prefer a woman with experience. Actually, it does not matter at all now. I just want a woman who would love me & meet my needs as much as I want to meet hers.

Why? I don't know many young women who specifically look for virgin men but yet young men seem to want virgin women. Of course I'm not talking now in my late 30's but when I was younger it seemed that was the "IN" (pardon the slight pun) thing for young men to strive for.

Just another curiosity question.

Faith, not at all! I am just trying to understand the numbers, that's all.

Society tells us that men are pigs and want nothing but to sleep around, and that women are forced to be the gate keepers.

Yet the results here tell us that 3/4 of the men are below 6 partners, while 1/2 of the women are above 10 partners, with a couple of 51+ thrown in.

I am just wondering if the other adage holds true: "women say they want the nice guys, but in practice go for the bad boys".

Again, no criticizing or putting down, just pondering the numbers, what else do you expect from an engineer??

AGG

I guess it was just the Christian thing to want. I had intercourse with one girl before marriage & wished I had not. I was open with W about it.

I guess I foolishly thought that virginity was more important than generosity. Believe me, I know better now. I would much rather have a woman with a past who was an enthusiastic giving sexual partner. The numbers are not nearly as important as a giving heart. That is the only thing that makes a difference.

Thanks for answering. It makes sense.