Howdy y'all! - 04/05/06 04:47 PM
I've graduated, I suppose you can call it that, from the pregnancy/child of infidelity board. My STBXH had a brief affair which resulted in an OC from his OW. Long story short, after three years of trying to recover, we parted ways and my divorce will be finalized April 25th.
This is my second divorce, so I've been through the feelings etc. before and honestly, I spent the last three years trying to save a marriage that was already dead. I've been on my own for nearly two years now and due to Hurricane Katrina, just now am getting my divorce finalized.
Most of the healing etc. has taken place and I've gotten counseling in the past to deal with the feelings and baggage. What I didn't count on was meeting a great man this past October and after our first date in November, have been pretty much inseparable since. What makes him a rare gem is that he and my kids adore each other as well (I have five of them)
I wasn't looking for a serious relationship, I was quite happy being alone and then I started to fall in love and am in love as did he. He wasn't looking either (he's divorced too)
my problem? I have some serious trust issues. I'm not a jealous or clingy person, but I have had insecurity issues along with some anxiety attacks. He's friends with several of his ex-gf's and such and I only get red-flags on two of them. What makes it weird is that I DO trust him, I don't trust the ex-gf's and such. He's been patient and working with me, but really...for those that might have been divorced due to infidelity issues, did any of you encounter any trust issues? How did you overcome it?
I welcome all insight and experiences. I never expected to fall in love again, but I don't want to push away my Bf due to my insecurity issues in the trust department, if that makes sense.
Thanks, if I don't make sense, don't mind me, I haven't had my full quota of diet coke today! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/pfft.gif" alt="" />
This is my second divorce, so I've been through the feelings etc. before and honestly, I spent the last three years trying to save a marriage that was already dead. I've been on my own for nearly two years now and due to Hurricane Katrina, just now am getting my divorce finalized.
Most of the healing etc. has taken place and I've gotten counseling in the past to deal with the feelings and baggage. What I didn't count on was meeting a great man this past October and after our first date in November, have been pretty much inseparable since. What makes him a rare gem is that he and my kids adore each other as well (I have five of them)
I wasn't looking for a serious relationship, I was quite happy being alone and then I started to fall in love and am in love as did he. He wasn't looking either (he's divorced too)
my problem? I have some serious trust issues. I'm not a jealous or clingy person, but I have had insecurity issues along with some anxiety attacks. He's friends with several of his ex-gf's and such and I only get red-flags on two of them. What makes it weird is that I DO trust him, I don't trust the ex-gf's and such. He's been patient and working with me, but really...for those that might have been divorced due to infidelity issues, did any of you encounter any trust issues? How did you overcome it?
I welcome all insight and experiences. I never expected to fall in love again, but I don't want to push away my Bf due to my insecurity issues in the trust department, if that makes sense.
Thanks, if I don't make sense, don't mind me, I haven't had my full quota of diet coke today! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/pfft.gif" alt="" />