New Partner Pushing Old Buttons - 05/10/06 05:27 PM
A friend and I just talked about this.
She is in a brand new relationship and, despite how compatible they are, she's not feeling "tingles". Now, this may be physical, and if so then I'm not sure what the answer is if AS is a high EN, however we've also discussed the possibility that this new man is reminding her, in big or little ways, of a past love that ended badly.
Although Hubby and XH are very different, there are a few significant similarities -- one or two didn't even crop up until after we married -- that push big buttons for me. I must be careful not to respond to Hubby in the same way that I responded to XH because they are different people with different motives, despite these similarities.
How do you completely and totally get over past hurts? Its been 8 years for me, so I'm surprised that my buttons are still there, let alone that someone can still push them. My friend says that if this is what's happening with her that its not conscious. Ideas?
Mrs. W8ing
She is in a brand new relationship and, despite how compatible they are, she's not feeling "tingles". Now, this may be physical, and if so then I'm not sure what the answer is if AS is a high EN, however we've also discussed the possibility that this new man is reminding her, in big or little ways, of a past love that ended badly.
Although Hubby and XH are very different, there are a few significant similarities -- one or two didn't even crop up until after we married -- that push big buttons for me. I must be careful not to respond to Hubby in the same way that I responded to XH because they are different people with different motives, despite these similarities.
How do you completely and totally get over past hurts? Its been 8 years for me, so I'm surprised that my buttons are still there, let alone that someone can still push them. My friend says that if this is what's happening with her that its not conscious. Ideas?
Mrs. W8ing