Freeloader - Renter issues with a single mom - 08/23/16 07:12 PM
Hi Guys
Last year I met a 40 year old single mom (2 kids 11 14), my neighbor and we went on a date together. There was great chemistry between us, but she was dating another man exclusively at that moment.
I had to work on the other side of the planet for 7 months and we stayed in contact.
She asked me on a date again this summer and was no longer seeing anyone, so I agreed. Again, she met all my emotional needs and that night we ended up in bed together. We started seeing each other 3 days a week on the days her kids are at her ex-husband's. (divorced 6 years ago)
It has been wonderful and both our love banks are overflowing :-) But something is bothering me: After 2 months she is still repeating textbook FREELOADER agreements, while I have been RENTING and SACRIFICING. (after a week basically)
I have never dated a mom before, so I expected there was some sacrificing going to happen in the beginning. But after being intimate for 2 months, I notice she is still a freeloader...
How can I bring this up without disrespectful judgments, demands and the whole renter/freeloader-conflict? Is it normal it takes that long to get to renter?
Last year I met a 40 year old single mom (2 kids 11 14), my neighbor and we went on a date together. There was great chemistry between us, but she was dating another man exclusively at that moment.
I had to work on the other side of the planet for 7 months and we stayed in contact.
She asked me on a date again this summer and was no longer seeing anyone, so I agreed. Again, she met all my emotional needs and that night we ended up in bed together. We started seeing each other 3 days a week on the days her kids are at her ex-husband's. (divorced 6 years ago)
It has been wonderful and both our love banks are overflowing :-) But something is bothering me: After 2 months she is still repeating textbook FREELOADER agreements, while I have been RENTING and SACRIFICING. (after a week basically)
I have never dated a mom before, so I expected there was some sacrificing going to happen in the beginning. But after being intimate for 2 months, I notice she is still a freeloader...
How can I bring this up without disrespectful judgments, demands and the whole renter/freeloader-conflict? Is it normal it takes that long to get to renter?