Letter to my Wife feedback - 07/08/12 11:16 AM
I don�t share a lot but I will share some struggles going on right now. I have been married to The Beautiful One for 9 years, and we have been together for around 14 years.
My wife was laid off from her job of almost 10 years awhile back. This was a career that she loved and went to college specifically to be. She was able to obtain the same position at another facility. Because of the circumstances that happened at her first job, she was let go after being falsely accused. Fast forward and she�s having to jump through hoops to save her license and go through a ton of drama. This has caused us to love half of our six figure income. It has also caused her a lot of emotionally pain and anxiety and etc.
The one good side to this is she has enrolled back in school to finish a bachelors degree to go into either social work (which she really thinks she�d like) or go and teach college classes for the position in which she is licensed to work. She is also having to do a lot of meetings type stuff and other time consuming projects in order to keep her license. Sadly all of this because of false accusations and terrible guidance on certain decisions to make. Of course this is not helping as she takes medication for anxiety and bi polar.
I have just finished my masters and built an awesome resume and looking for something that pays more than teaching. In the meantime, I�ll be working on my educational administrative license and will be applicable to be hired as an asst principal next school year. As it is now, I am working early morning and some evenings as a 1-on-1 and small group fitness trainer, nutritional advisor and cardio kickboxing instructor. I�m reffing adult volleyball games alternating one evening a week one week and two evenings a week the following week. Granted the shift is only an hour and 15 minutes long. I�m also now reffing adult indoor soccer 1-2 nights a week. If that wasn�t enough, I�m asst coach for the high school volleyball team I teach at. Luckily right now, school is out so I get quite a bit of time with the kids and wife.
Essentially I�m trying to make it to where she can concentrate on her license and career needs and finish her bachelors without having to work. That�s the long story short.
Anyway, we haven�t really connected as much as we should the last couple weeks. I hand wrote this letter and will give it to her tomorrow. I�d like some of the ladies advice on if they think anything needs to be changed.
Here is my letter�
Dearest Beautiful One,
I cannot thank you enough for the text you sent me with a �thank you� for everything I do. If you do not remember that particular text, it is because I have sadly procrastinated in writing this letter. For that I apologize and am truly sorry for all the other times I have neglected in making you feel you weren�t the greatest, most cherished aspect of my life.
I want you to know I don�t consider any of what I do to be anything that every husband and father shouldn�t be doing. A man is not a man that doesn�t take care of his family in need. More than anything�well, maybe not anything�but something that is very important to me is to emulate those qualities that my Dad demonstrated. He is the one you should thank above all.
Honestly, one of the things I struggle with is feeling successful as a father and husband. I feel I should be able to provide more for you and the kiddos. While material objects are not overly important, I feel like you and our children deserve a nice home. I do not want to be in the situation where we have to tell the kids we can�t afford tickets to the water park or we have to ride in the hot car because we can�t afford to get the AC fixed. And we should never be in a situation in which we have to make arrangements on a utility bill because we have to buy tires or brakes. I know growing up, you had to live with a lack of stability whether it be having a place to live or if you have Christmas supper.
This is why I have been trying to find a different career. I want to provide for you and our children. And I want to be able to do this by myself. In other words, I never want whether you work or not to matter when it comes to financial stability.
I also want you to know that I don�t know what you go through emotionally. Please do know that I am sympathetic even though I do not show it at times. I�m sorry�beyond sorry when I have minimized how you feel. I know sometimes you struggle just to smile. It breaks my heart when you are sad. One of the hardest things I struggle with is not being able to take all your depression and sadness away.
I think back to so many years ago when I first captured that first glance of you and how captivated I became that I just couldn�t look away. Baby there�s not a day that goes by that I don�t just stop and stare and take my time admiring you.
I cannot thank you enough for you sharing your life with me and how honored I am to be your best friend and husband.
Yours in Love Forever,
Kilted Thrower
My wife was laid off from her job of almost 10 years awhile back. This was a career that she loved and went to college specifically to be. She was able to obtain the same position at another facility. Because of the circumstances that happened at her first job, she was let go after being falsely accused. Fast forward and she�s having to jump through hoops to save her license and go through a ton of drama. This has caused us to love half of our six figure income. It has also caused her a lot of emotionally pain and anxiety and etc.
The one good side to this is she has enrolled back in school to finish a bachelors degree to go into either social work (which she really thinks she�d like) or go and teach college classes for the position in which she is licensed to work. She is also having to do a lot of meetings type stuff and other time consuming projects in order to keep her license. Sadly all of this because of false accusations and terrible guidance on certain decisions to make. Of course this is not helping as she takes medication for anxiety and bi polar.
I have just finished my masters and built an awesome resume and looking for something that pays more than teaching. In the meantime, I�ll be working on my educational administrative license and will be applicable to be hired as an asst principal next school year. As it is now, I am working early morning and some evenings as a 1-on-1 and small group fitness trainer, nutritional advisor and cardio kickboxing instructor. I�m reffing adult volleyball games alternating one evening a week one week and two evenings a week the following week. Granted the shift is only an hour and 15 minutes long. I�m also now reffing adult indoor soccer 1-2 nights a week. If that wasn�t enough, I�m asst coach for the high school volleyball team I teach at. Luckily right now, school is out so I get quite a bit of time with the kids and wife.
Essentially I�m trying to make it to where she can concentrate on her license and career needs and finish her bachelors without having to work. That�s the long story short.
Anyway, we haven�t really connected as much as we should the last couple weeks. I hand wrote this letter and will give it to her tomorrow. I�d like some of the ladies advice on if they think anything needs to be changed.
Here is my letter�
Dearest Beautiful One,
I cannot thank you enough for the text you sent me with a �thank you� for everything I do. If you do not remember that particular text, it is because I have sadly procrastinated in writing this letter. For that I apologize and am truly sorry for all the other times I have neglected in making you feel you weren�t the greatest, most cherished aspect of my life.
I want you to know I don�t consider any of what I do to be anything that every husband and father shouldn�t be doing. A man is not a man that doesn�t take care of his family in need. More than anything�well, maybe not anything�but something that is very important to me is to emulate those qualities that my Dad demonstrated. He is the one you should thank above all.
Honestly, one of the things I struggle with is feeling successful as a father and husband. I feel I should be able to provide more for you and the kiddos. While material objects are not overly important, I feel like you and our children deserve a nice home. I do not want to be in the situation where we have to tell the kids we can�t afford tickets to the water park or we have to ride in the hot car because we can�t afford to get the AC fixed. And we should never be in a situation in which we have to make arrangements on a utility bill because we have to buy tires or brakes. I know growing up, you had to live with a lack of stability whether it be having a place to live or if you have Christmas supper.
This is why I have been trying to find a different career. I want to provide for you and our children. And I want to be able to do this by myself. In other words, I never want whether you work or not to matter when it comes to financial stability.
I also want you to know that I don�t know what you go through emotionally. Please do know that I am sympathetic even though I do not show it at times. I�m sorry�beyond sorry when I have minimized how you feel. I know sometimes you struggle just to smile. It breaks my heart when you are sad. One of the hardest things I struggle with is not being able to take all your depression and sadness away.
I think back to so many years ago when I first captured that first glance of you and how captivated I became that I just couldn�t look away. Baby there�s not a day that goes by that I don�t just stop and stare and take my time admiring you.
I cannot thank you enough for you sharing your life with me and how honored I am to be your best friend and husband.
Yours in Love Forever,
Kilted Thrower