I am not saying that I don't agree that having that time is important. I do believe that the emptiness of my love bank is mostly due to the fact of us not spending time together. We have been married 9 years and maybe been on 4 dates by ourselves. I understand that this program will not work without those hours. So maybe I need to look at another program? I don't feel there is time to "find 15 hours". Seriously.
There is seriously no such thing as a program that works if you neglect your marriage. it is not a matter of the right program, it is just a true fact that you can't sustain a marriage if you don't spend time with your spouse.
What magic program will produce a great marriage when you neglect it? There is no such thing.
Here's our schedule.
Tues-Friday wake @ 3am Hubby leaves at 4am to go to work.
He gets home at 5pm. We go to bed at 7:30pm (kids in bed at 6)
Fridays that he gets his son, I see him enough to say goodnight.
This is the first problem I would address. He needs to find a job were he is home at a reasonable hour. The job should complement the marriage, not the other way around. You can't expect to stay married this way.
If he found a job where he is home by 5pm every night, you could get 2-3 dates per week. [hire a babysitter] So there is 10 hours right there.
Every Saturday he works all day 10-8pm. This side job is a new job. And its just temporary until out of debt. We cant do without this job. It's been a blessing. We have to get out of debt..or we risk going under.
Here is 4 more hours that can be devoted to your marriage. You can go out on dates on Saturday. He can either quit the job or find one that works with your marriage. This one does not.
Sundays: Church 10-1:30. If its a sunday we have his son then we eat lunch right after church and he leaves right after lunch to take him home. And I dont see him till that night.
If this is every week, you could make it once a month and you go on the ride with him. That way you could spend quality time together on the ride home.
Mondays: (Off days of work and school)Grocery Shopping.
Once again, if you have time to do all this less important stuff, you have plenty of time to go out on dates. All it takes is willingness.
I just dont see getting 15 hours from that. Without neglecting the kids. Im not saying there ISNT time at all.....just not 15 hours.
You are neglecting your kids if you are neglecting your marriage. And yes, you are neglecting your marriage.
It is in your children's best interest for you to haev a solid, secure marriage. By neglecting their marriage, you are risking their security!