Fiancée’s past - 10/21/20 02:18 PM
Hello
I am 71 and about to get married. I dearly love my fiancée and I can’t wait until we’re actually married. I do have a problem, in my own mind, about her sexual past. I have recurring thoughts and sometimes images about things she did when she was much younger. She told me a lot about her first boyfriend and that appears to have satisfied my curiosity. I no longer think about him. There are however three other instances about her lovers that pop into my head fairly often. I try very hard to push these thoughts aside but they keep coming back. I have read books about retroactive jealousy but that doesn’t help. I don’t think I’m jealous; I think I’m just curious.
I’m not sure what to do except “suck it up”. I’m wondering if talking about these instances will help take the thoughts away.
Any good advice is appreciated. Please do not tell me not to get married; I love her with my whole heart and soul and I want to marry her.
I am 71 and about to get married. I dearly love my fiancée and I can’t wait until we’re actually married. I do have a problem, in my own mind, about her sexual past. I have recurring thoughts and sometimes images about things she did when she was much younger. She told me a lot about her first boyfriend and that appears to have satisfied my curiosity. I no longer think about him. There are however three other instances about her lovers that pop into my head fairly often. I try very hard to push these thoughts aside but they keep coming back. I have read books about retroactive jealousy but that doesn’t help. I don’t think I’m jealous; I think I’m just curious.
I’m not sure what to do except “suck it up”. I’m wondering if talking about these instances will help take the thoughts away.
Any good advice is appreciated. Please do not tell me not to get married; I love her with my whole heart and soul and I want to marry her.