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I am so sorry that you are here, and I know how devestated you are. I found out in November and it was physically almost impossible to walk across the room.

Today will be the first of many difficult days to come. My husband always promised our childre 12, 17, and 24 that Mom and Dad would never get a divorce, and like you I did not have a clue and we were considered the "ideal" couple.

I wish I had words to give you on how to get through this day. I don't know that I would tell the children anything at this point...I made my husband tell the children the same night he told me..not sure this was a good idea or not. I can tell you to read on this site often..there are so many good people who have been through what you are going through and they will be your life line. I also suggest reading How To Survive an affair. Check the articles on this post also...very helpful.

Most importantly Pray! I pray for my husband and then myself and each of our children..and then I pray for us as a family. I really questioned my faith after this but believe me there is a God and he will listen and help.

I wish I had a happy ending to my saga but we are still working on it. We seperated just six weeks ago, and are in marriage counseling. I think although the work is hard and slow it will be worth it. We have been married 20 years and I pray will reunite and be stronger.

You will be in my heart and prayers today! You will get through this..I promise.
Mish

Welcome to Marriage Builders. I am sorry you are here under the current situation. First of all, know that you did not do anything that forced your husband to have an affair. You are blameless regarding his decision to have affairs. You are both responsible for the state of your marriage. Your husband is fully responsible for the decisions he made to have affairs.

Remember that most of what he says to you right now is coming from his wayward state of mind and has little to do with reality. Also, I am very sorry to have to say this to you but I doubt that he has really ended his most recent affair. You need to see your doctor to be tested for STDs. You need to find some support. If you want to remain in this marriage or decide if you want to remain in this marriage, you need to find a pro-marriage counselor and make an appointment for yourself. You will want to consider getting on anti-depressant medication.

The weekends are slow but hopefully you will get more help. I know this is painful for you. I have not experienced the exact pain that you are in now but I have experienced my own pain. I know it is indescribably rough. My thoughts are with you today.
Lake

also, you will find more people posting on the general questions, infidelity forum that can help you through this.
Lake