Well, yea, a little shock effect with that title, but not really.

Tom2010

My WS used to tell me that all the time and mean it long ago. It is very sad now.....Very nice of you though.

Yea, I told this woman that, an it took a good dealof courage and honesty with my values. The reason I had the courage to tell her that is because she is beautiful for a woman and I just felt I wanted to tell her. She is married, a clerk at a conveience store, but still, just by me saying that I felt that it was an honest compliment, period. I did not anticipte hr telling me that she has had that told to her ten times a day...that is what she told me. I do know her husband, he that store. It was just a compiment and I feel good about it and so did she. There is not further, nothing, no hidden agenda, or anything like that. She could have slapped my face, but instead she waived the price of an item I bought and then wanted to talk. Women love to talk when they feel comfy, but I left with my purchases.

This was earlier today. And I do not feel guilty about complimenting a member of the opposite sex, it was an honest compliment and I had no fear that would affect amy boundaries or reduce, in any measure, my love for Char.

Well, Char went to dr, today, I think I alreadyposted on my thread that she had a urinary infection. Been treated but now my son and the dr called me to tell me that she needs tests and maybe bladder or other cancer is involved.

My God.

For the first third time in my life i am scared. the first was seeing my son's heartbeat when Char was in labor and had to have a C-Sec to save him. The umbilicle cord was around his neck as she started delivery. The second was my admuission to treatment for alcoholism.

Well now my beautiful gal may have something serious. Not an infection any longer but per her physician maybe a growthe or kidney problem and she will see a urolosit and . We will not know until end of next week. I talked to my son - he lives in the area, and my D - she will fly here this coming week to be with her mom for further exam . Yes I am scared now. We are not going to hide or cower but we are going to give to her the best medical atention possible. I have faith but now I feel drained. If she is seriously ill and could die like soon, I would want to be with her to just hear me tell her that I love her so mucu, and when my turn comes later,

So, I happened to reflect now on a few here like ed and awokanedhubby . If you two had any guts or character you would absorb the the advice here, you would decide that there is something, no matter how small, hanging between your legs when you look in your mirror, and respect and protect your marriage. I am really feeling angry an abondoned tonight Ed and Awoken, and it inflames me that you even reperesent yourselves as males!! You need to know that Melody, Igrip, Marital, BT, Mr. Wondering, MJ (Micharl Jan), Harmony, Seeking, and others have alot more on you in terms of your reactionn to your wives' affair.. By your questions and questions and your reluctance to act like a husband, you dishonnor not only your selves, but others.

The reason I have denegrated these two people is that they represent a poor example of love, marriage, and life. That is my belief I and would fight anyone who disagrees with that! And those of your weak-kneed husbands who are whining now aabout being unemployed - get real - no one respects you if your are not making an effort!

I do not feel tough anymore realiziing that Char may be serioulsy ill. Seems like most on here, with the exception of he vets.

Yea ya know what ...i guess life expentancy is like early 80's, That is about ten year for us ,and I am preprared and want to die with my wife either bseide me or holdinng me. And you younger guys, what is your desire??

Tom

Honestly, this is the wrong expression and site for me now. There are many people on here who are either trying hard, or are those so-called vets.

I jsut needed some support, and I guess it is not going to come from here! I am very worried about Char. Appt next week with another specialist.

Bye..Tom