How will you know what you are recovering from if you don't know the details?

I am NOT talking about sexual positions necessarily. Although you do need to ask about condoms/contraception/any terminated pregnancies. You have the right to ask about sexual positions/kissing/oral/etc if YOU decide YOU want to know.

But, you need to know where they went.
Which restaurants.
Which public parks.
Which motels.
Which bars.
Which cars they sat in.
Did they do "it" in your home. Stuff like that.
Why?
Because these places/things will "trigger" your WW towards remembering OM and her adultery.
WW will NOT really recover (and thus you will not recover) if you are unaware of which places & things you ought to avoid.
What movies did they see?
What songs did they listen to?
What gifts/cards did they exchange?


You also need to know which of her friends knew of the A but never told you and never told your WW to stop.

NOT knowing will poison your future marriage.
Asking WW's "gal pal" for advice is plainly stupid if said "gal pal" was complacent in hiding WW's adultery activity.
Which of WW's "gal pals" was WW's "beard"?

Remember, the problem with sticking your head in the sand is it leaves your [censored] exposed.

I hope this is true.

Put a GPS on her vehicle. Do not tell WW.
Put spyware on her computer & her phone. Do not tell WW.
Cancel any credit cards WW may have that you cannot monitor.
WW must agree that YOU control all the family finances and all the bills come to you.

Chances are very very high that this adultery/affair will fire up again once the infidels think you are not paying attention.
No matter WHAT WW tells you, she is a high risk for rekindling this adultery.
YOU must remain vigilant for many many years.

If you do not GPS/spyware as advised, please get yourself re-tested for STDs every 3-4 months.

Your unwillingness to take aggressive actions to protect your marriage will keep yours a HIGH RISK situation !!!!

Translation:
Your WW is a seasoned liar who is comfortable with deception and secrecy.



Translation:

Everything that you are 'hoping' did not happen between infidels, happened.
Everything.

PS

Put a voice activated recorder where you think WW might be when she tries to call OM on a "pay as you go" phone. Usually, her vehicle.