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Your minister is not a professional marriage saving specialist. Follow. The plan to the letter. Don't deviate.
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Will your ex-wife come here and start her own thread? She has the option and knows of this. Her choice, and I have no problem with it.
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If there is a place you both patronize, and therefore could run into her there, then why don't you just avoid that place? Rather than use it as an excuse to text her to find out first if she is going to be there?
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It is really this simple:
Are you willing to end ALL contact with your OW and implement EPs (we will post them for you once you agree to do so) to prevent any further contact?
If not, you are wasting our time and not serious.
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It is really this simple:
Are you willing to end ALL contact with your OW and implement EPs (we will post them for you once you agree to do so) to prevent any further contact?
If not, you are wasting our time and not serious. I'm more than serious. I want this to work, but how do I avoid the OW if we both go to the same place. I have no problem with no contact at all, but I really don't want to see her. She feels the same.
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It is really this simple:
Are you willing to end ALL contact with your OW and implement EPs (we will post them for you once you agree to do so) to prevent any further contact?
If not, you are wasting our time and not serious. I'm more than serious. I want this to work, but how do I avoid the OW if we both go to the same place. I have no problem with no contact at all, but I really don't want to see her. She feels the same. You can implement Dr Harley's EPs while you prepare to move. Otherwise, this is pointless.
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And you shouldn't bother your ex-BW if you aren't going to move and get away from your OW.
That's not fair to her.
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If there is a place you both patronize, and therefore could run into her there, then why don't you just avoid that place? Rather than use it as an excuse to text her to find out first if she is going to be there? Because it's a place where I see some of my most supportive friends and I've been going there for years. It's a huge part of my life. My ex also goes with me. And I don't text her. She texts me and I avoid.
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And you shouldn't bother your ex-BW if you aren't going to move and get away from your OW.
That's not fair to her. Moving is NOT an option. The home we have is not replaceable. My ex had NO problem with that, and neither do I. The OW lives in a different town.
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And you shouldn't bother your ex-BW if you aren't going to move and get away from your OW.
That's not fair to her. Moving is NOT an option. The home we have is not replaceable. My ex had NO problem with that, and neither do I. The OW lives in a different town. Then you are not serious and there is no point. This isn't going to work and you should leave your ex-BW alone. Dr Harley will tell you the same, you have to move and get away from the OW. Texting her to "avoid" contact is not going to work.
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And you shouldn't bother your ex-BW if you aren't going to move and get away from your OW.
That's not fair to her. Moving is NOT an option. The home we have is not replaceable. My ex had NO problem with that, and neither do I. The OW lives in a different town. Your ex doesn't have any idea how to recover from your affair. You are the one here, she is not, so please don't try to tell us contact with your OW is OK because it is ok with your ex- BW.
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I don't think MB is the place for you.
It is incredibly cruel and insensitive for a wayward to sit here and want to post about his affair in "Dating" and make excuses for why he still needs to text with his OW while trying to recover his relationship with his BW.
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And you shouldn't bother your ex-BW if you aren't going to move and get away from your OW.
That's not fair to her. Moving is NOT an option. The home we have is not replaceable. My ex had NO problem with that, and neither do I. The OW lives in a different town. Then you are not serious and there is no point. This isn't going to work and you should leave your ex-BW alone. Dr Harley will tell you the same, you have to move and get away from the OW. Texting her to "avoid" contact is not going to work. Yes, moving is not an option, the OW is in a different town. Not a thread with that.
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And you shouldn't bother your ex-BW if you aren't going to move and get away from your OW.
That's not fair to her. Moving is NOT an option. The home we have is not replaceable. My ex had NO problem with that, and neither do I. The OW lives in a different town. Then you are not serious and there is no point. This isn't going to work and you should leave your ex-BW alone. Dr Harley will tell you the same, you have to move and get away from the OW. Texting her to "avoid" contact is not going to work. Yes, moving is not an option, the OW is in a different town. Not a thread with that. MB is not for you. MB does not allow for texting contact with the OW and staying in a locale that allows for run-ins with the OW. Regardless of the excuse.
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I don't appreciate a wayward using this forum to get help getting his BW back while he remains in contact with the OW. Not one bit.
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I don't think MB is the place for you.
It is incredibly cruel and insensitive for a wayward to sit here and want to post about his affair in "Dating" and make excuses for why he still needs to text with his OW while trying to recover his relationship with his BW. So what do you suggest? Moving is just NOT an option and is NOT going to happen. I don't want that and the ex does not want that and it would be financially extremely difficult. And, please understand, I do not text my OW, she just texts when she going where we patronize the same place. Works well, because we can avoid each other. I'm not sure I understand your post, but certainly up for an explanation.
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I don't think MB is the place for you.
It is incredibly cruel and insensitive for a wayward to sit here and want to post about his affair in "Dating" and make excuses for why he still needs to text with his OW while trying to recover his relationship with his BW. So what do you suggest? Moving is just NOT an option and is NOT going to happen. I don't want that and the ex does not want that and it would be financially extremely difficult. And, please understand, I do not text my OW, she just texts when she going where we patronize the same place. Works well, because we can avoid each other. . You simply aren't getting the MB level of marital commitment. To an MBer the marriage is more important than a social gathering place, more important than supportive friends, more important than where you live. MBers recognise that OS friends CAN threaten a marriage and former lovers even more so! They don't treat the women as competitors and the one trying least hard loses - they protect their wives from such competition. They don't wait for their wives to 'have a problem' with affair contact. They are against it for their own sake and protection of the marriage. You don't even want to be married - so this is a waste of everyone's time. Do it your way - it's your funeral. But this is not the place to talk about a complete disregard for commitment after putting a wife through an affair!
What would you do if you were not afraid?
"Fear is the little death. Fear is the mind-killer" Frank Herbert.
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Is this place you go to a bar?
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This thread is now locked. When you are serious about ending contact with the other woman, and are ready to follow the whole Marriage Builders plan (without cherry picking), let us know.
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