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My wife has left me physically and I've about had it. I had a problem with pornography and she believed I treated her as a sex object but it has been almost two years since I have viewed porn and am sorrowful to the point of giving up. It seems she has not forgiven me and I cry out to God each day for restoration of our relationship. It is very difficult to be living in a basically platonic marriage and I've had it. Your prayers much appreciated, Thank you!
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My wife has left me physically and I've about had it. I had a problem with pornography and she believed I treated her as a sex object but it has been almost two years since I have viewed porn and am sorrowful to the point of giving up. It seems she has not forgiven me and I cry out to God each day for restoration of our relationship. It is very difficult to be living in a basically platonic marriage and I've had it. Your prayers much appreciated, Thank you! Welcome davidm to MB. Do you want help with a plan? You might want to post your thread on the other forums to get some help.
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Yes Brain, I would love help with this, this was my first post and I'm not sure where to post though. Thanks for replying, Dave
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Yes Brain, I would love help with this, this was my first post and I'm not sure where to post though. Thanks for replying, Dave Just hit notify and ask the MODS to move it. Perhaps MB101?
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David - welcome to Marriage Builders! I'm sorry to hear your marriage is struggling. By understanding and applying the marriage builder principles in your marriage you have a great chance to not just recover your marriage, but make it better than ever - for you AND your wife. I recommend you start by reading Harley's basic concepts and get an idea where your marriage is hurting the worst, using Harley's vocabulary. Try to focus not only on where your needs are not being met but also the areas in which you could improve as a husband. Come back, tell us what you want to happen in your marriage and how you think you can accomplish it. We'll help you along the way =) http://www.marriagebuilders.com/graphic/mbi3100_how.html
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My wife has left me physically and I've about had it. I had a problem with pornography and she believed I treated her as a sex object but it has been almost two years since I have viewed porn and am sorrowful to the point of giving up. It seems she has not forgiven me and I cry out to God each day for restoration of our relationship. It is very difficult to be living in a basically platonic marriage and I've had it. Your prayers much appreciated, Thank you! Hi David, welcome to Marriage Builders. The problem is that your wife is not emotionally attached to you. Women feel like they are being treated like sex objects when there is an absence of an emotional attachment. We can help you change this if you stick with us. Please read this article and come back and tell us what you think: The question of the ages: How can a husband receive the sex he needs in marriage?
"It is not the critic who counts; not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles, or where the doer of deeds could have done them better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena.." Theodore Roosevelt Exposure 101
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My wife has left me physically and I've about had it. I had a problem with pornography and she believed I treated her as a sex object but it has been almost two years since I have viewed porn and am sorrowful to the point of giving up. It seems she has not forgiven me and I cry out to God each day for restoration of our relationship. It is very difficult to be living in a basically platonic marriage and I've had it. Your prayers much appreciated, Thank you! Welcome to Marriage Builders, David. How long have you been married? Have you had any dealings with other women, like flirting, that your wife knows about? How much time do the two of you spend together each week - excluding TV, computers, etc. - just the two of you being together?
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Thanks for the response melodylane, I have read the article and have heard and understand the things explained, we are at the point where I have given up on trying to initiate any sexual contact at all and because of the past she is now unwilling to let me even see her naked. she still blames for the past 20 yrs. I have never had a sexual encounter with another woman but as stated before have had "seasons" of porn use, our sexual relationship has always been "broken". We got married after I did "use her" and she ended up pregnant, that was over 21 yrs ago now.
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Thanks for the response melodylane, I have read the article and have heard and understand the things explained, we are at the point where I have given up on trying to initiate any sexual contact at all and because of the past she is now unwilling to let me even see her naked. she still blames for the past 20 yrs. I have never had a sexual encounter with another woman but as stated before have had "seasons" of porn use, our sexual relationship has always been "broken". We got married after I did "use her" and she ended up pregnant, that was over 21 yrs ago now. You can turn this around if you use this program to create a romantic bond with her. Does she want to turn your marriage around?
"It is not the critic who counts; not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles, or where the doer of deeds could have done them better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena.." Theodore Roosevelt Exposure 101
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Thanks for the response Maritalbliss, I have not ever had an "affair". I had "cybersex" with a woman once, about 15 yrs ago, have never had sexual contact with another woman. We do not spend enough time together and when we do there is this elephant in the room.
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Thanks for the response Maritalbliss, I have not ever had an "affair". I had "cybersex" with a woman once, about 15 yrs ago, have never had sexual contact with another woman. We do not spend enough time together and when we do there is this elephant in the room. That IS considered a sexual affair. Does your wife know about it?
"It is not the critic who counts; not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles, or where the doer of deeds could have done them better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena.." Theodore Roosevelt Exposure 101
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Yes, Melody, I told her about it shortly after it happened.
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