Hi, thought I would come in for an update on my life. Well that guy I was dating didn't work out. He just disappeared and started ignoring me. I've decided that dating isn't really worth the hassle and I'm not looking to meet any man. I want to concentrate all my time on my son and just being the best mother I can be. And to be honest I'm just so busy I really don't have time for a man in my life.
My XWH is still living with OW unmarried, has been for about 4 years now in the house they bought together.
My son comes home and tells me he hates OW and she bosses him around and hardly acknowledges him. He's told me he's happy that I don't have a boyfriend and that all my time is for him. I'm happy with that and my son knows he always comes first in my life.
Since the last time I updated I had some contact with WXH. I had quite a few phone calls to him where we discussed our son. I thought I could handle this as we have been divorced for a year and a half now. But turns out it just made me upset so I've decided that this is not a good idea for me.
Even during these phone calls he started going on about how he missed me, still loved me etc but was stuck with OW because of the house etc. He's definately not happy but I doubt he will ever change things. Same old story.
XWH has missed out on so much of our son's school events, presentations, sporting carnivals because OW still won't let him be in the same vicinity as me. He is still controlled and under constant GPS surveillance even after all this time.
Sadly my son misses out. I'm just glad that he has me there to celebrate his achievements.
It's funny I don't even blame OW for my WXH not being involved in our son's events and achievements anymore. At the end of the day it's my WXH who is a coward and can't stand up for himself and say 'hey this is my son and I'm going to see him at school presentation night, or i'm going to watch my son's swimming carnival'.
He's definately not the man I married. He has become a weak coward of a man and I feel sorry for him.
I still love him and when I think of him it just makes me so sad.
I do think we are still supposed to be together, but I don't know if I could ever take him back after the hurt he has caused my son and I and because of the time that has passed.
But I am doing good and don't think of him that often.
I gave up the bookkeeping course and I am studying a Diploma in Beauty Therapy and go to night classes 2 nights a week where I have met some great ladies and we have a lot of fun.
Once I have finished this course in 18 months I will be a fully qualified Beauty Therapist and hopefully will leave my current job and find full time work in the beauty industry. My son will be a bit older so I will be able to work more.
My plan is eventually to find a new house to live in for my son and I. Currently I still rent the house that is owned by my WXH and his father. They have increased the rent 3 times in the past 3 years with no consideration for me, and claiming that it's business.
I hope to get a good job and cut all ties completely and not have to live here anymore.
XWH has definately come out on top after our settlement leaving me with barely anything as I needed to pay off loans etc.
But I refuse to let it bring me down and I am determined to live the best life possible for my son and myself.
I've taught him that even though we live in a modest house, unlike his father in his million dollar home, what's important is that we have so much love and fun and we are very lucky. My son understands this and is a lot happier when he's with me. He can just relax and be himself and not have OW'S kids around.
My WXH is good in respect to paying child support for my son, but I'm the one who basically does the hard yards in regards to everything else.
I'm proud of that and if WXH wants to miss out on all his stuff, just because a woman tells him too that is not even his wife, then I just feel sorry for him because one day he will regret putting an OW over our son.
The situation still hurts and makes me teary, but I don't dwell on it anymore. I've learned to be positive and picked myself up.
I have no desire to talk to WXH anymore. I've got good friends, a wonderful son and my 20 year old daughter and I are so much closer now. I'm looking forward to finishing my course and starting a new life for my son and I.
I think I've come a long way