Genesis 38:24-26 (NIV)
24 About three months later Judah was told, "Your daughter-in-law Tamar is
guilty of prostitution, and as a result she is now pregnant." Judah said,
"Bring her out and have her burned to death!" 25 As she was being brought out,
she sent a message to her father-in-law. "I am pregnant by the man who owns
these," she said. And she added, "See if you recognize whose seal and cord and
staff these are." 26 Judah recognized them and said, "She is more righteous
than I, since I wouldn't give her to my son Shelah." And he did not sleep with
her again.

Judah's first born son Er died and left his widow Tamar. Custom allowed the
brothers to father a child in order that there might be an heir. Onan, Judah's
second son was put to death by the Lord because he purposely kept from
impregnating Tamar. Judah then sent his daughter-in-law back to her father
because he worried his youngest son Shelah might die having to fulfill his duty
when he was old enough. Then Judah thinking he had met a prostitute along the
road gave Tamar his seal, cord and staff for credit for her services. Tamar
became purposely pregnant with Judah's child because she saw that Judah had not
fulfilled his promise of sending Shelah to her when he was grown. And in the
end Judah recognized Tamar's purpose was more right than his own.

Proper leadership in families is important. Judah was responsible for choosing
Tamar as Er's wife. Judah assigned Onan the duty of fathering a child. Judah
promised Tamar a child by Shelah, but did not keep his promise. Judah chose to
sleep with his daughter-in-law thinking she was a prostitute. Judah was quick
to condemn Tamar without the facts. Judah's leadership was failing because in
all that he did you never see him spending time with the Lord. Men are you
spending time with the Lord learning how you should lead your home? If not you
are on the same dangerous path as Judah. Pray that God will make you the leader
of your home. Ask for guidance in decisions that affect your family. Let Christ
walk with you keeping you on the paths away from sin so your family prospers
and grows under the Lords guidance.