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Re: Just checking in Penny Bright 10/31/26 08:08 AM

Have you noticed if he still updates the Q&A articles on the website?

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Surviving an Affair

Re: After 26 yrs ,here we go again Nochanges 10/30/26 01:18 AM

He's on Ss retirement too, I'm sure he'd take the rv, Harley and his truck.
He wouldn't be able to pay here and not live here. He'd be fine

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Dating and Relationships

Re: Why would the WW partner want Counseling? Samuel Connely 10/27/26 07:17 PM

Honestly, a lot of the time they just want to ease their own guilt or try to look like they're "trying" to outside eyes without actually doing the painful heavy lifting of changing. When my friend went through something similar, counseling was used more as a shield to say "look, we went!" rather than a tool to fix the actual broken trust. If there's no real accountability or willingness to cut off the affair fog completely, all the therapy in the world isn't going to make a difference.

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Dating and Relationships

Re: Should I commit to him longterm? Samuel Connely 10/27/26 07:12 PM

Honestly, if you're already having this many doubts before making a long-term commitment, that's usually your gut trying to tell you something important. When I was wrestling with a similar decision years ago, I realized that waiting for things to magically click into place just dragged out the inevitable, and taking a step back gave me the clarity I desperately needed.

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Divorcing/Divorced

Re: Following Ex-Wifes Nursing Schedule? emelia lucass 10/23/26 10:11 AM

Originally Posted by Jamexu

Hello…just wondering if anyone has had experience following your ex partners nursing schedule when it comes to parenting/custody.
So my ex-wife and I have been divorced for a little over a year. We just decided to not do a set parenting schedule, and I would just have my daughter (who is 2) the days she works.
At the time she was at a job where she worked 4-12 hour shifts a week. So I ended up having my daughter more than 50/50 which was great, no complaints.
Now she has a job where she works 3-12 hour shifts so I do not get her as much. To make it truly 50/50, I have to ask her if I can have my daughter 3-4 times extra a month. When its convienent to her…if she says no, I cant do anything about it but most of the time she says yes. bowl games
Just wondering If I got a custody lawyer now, would I be successful in getting a set schedule that is official and I have her certain days and vice versa?
I just think its an unfair situation and the ball is always in her court.
Any opinions? I know some might say I should have gotten a lawyer when we first split but I didnt want it to be the long drawn out process and so forth which was probably my mistake.
Anyways, thank you

Have you ever tried suggesting a fixed 50/50 schedule to her, or have you mostly just been going along with her work schedule so far? I can see how things could get frustrating when your time with your daughter depends on whether extra days work for her.

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Pregnancy/Child

Re: Infertility Samuel Connely 10/22/26 11:50 AM

I’m sorry you’re both going through this. I can understand how torn you must feel, wanting your wife to be happy while also dealing with the emotional weight of having another man involved in conceiving your child. I wouldn’t rush into agreeing to something this life-changing out of guilt or fear of losing her. You both deserve to feel comfortable with whatever decision you make together, and talking to a counselor who understands infertility could help.

Before making a final decision, it might also be worth researching other medical options and their costs. Some couples look into fertility clinics abroad because treatment options and prices can vary between countries. Even if IVF seems unaffordable right now, getting a few consultations and comparing alternatives could help you understand what’s realistically possible before taking a step that could affect your marriage long-term.

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Divorcing/Divorced

Re: Separated/Dating abrrba 10/19/26 05:23 PM

Are you divorced or just separated? If divorced, then I'd say 'whenever you think you're ready'. If separated, I'd say 'wait until you're divorced, and then whenever you think you're ready'.

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