Thank you for your kind post. I agree with your comment that even though our choices may not have been ordained by God, He put his ultimate stamp of approval on our marriage the day we vowed to each other.
I do apologize that I was not able to respond to your comments yesterday but I cannot post on my work computer.
You have a lot of insights that would help many people on these boards. Sometimes it takes a while to get acclimated to the best way to help. For instance, the poster (Mark) who inserted the "What God has put together" phrase, gave me a reason to ask a somewhat rhetorical question "Did He?" Mark and I may or may not agree on all ideas, but on these boards, the defining line is drawn by the outlines provided by MB concepts, which are quietly based on solid Bible principles. Many posters who seek answers may not be Christians as you discovered yesterday, but one very respected veteran spiritual (BS) poster viewed Dr. Harley and these MB boards as a Good Samaritan aiding in a world of hurt not limited to any particular religious faith.
I read your exchanges with Evo et. al. last night and saw that Mark had requested to discuss some concepts with you on a new thread. If you haven't already, please be open to chatting with him and others who may challenge your views because that's how you will grow and be able to help others down the road.
Lost, I see your heart of compassion...I have the same, but I do NOT want that to get in the way of solid advice. Like I said on another thread, I need to be careful that I am not compassionately wrong. Whether we are right or wrong, we need to always remain open to being challenged in order for God to help us learn new thoughts and ideas that may change how we thought in the past.
Please check out my early posts between Jan. 14 and Jan. 21. I was bashed big time for innocently giving what I had perceived to be a proper MB interpretation of concepts relating to exposing to the OPS, but I was innocently WRONG. I took it all in, however, and grew through it, and that is how I believe God was able to bless our marriage and introduce me to my MR. ROMANCE, which inspired this thread.
In closing, I do not believe you will have to wait 30 years. In fact, while it is true, that thought may hurt more than help those like you who are seeking solutions for their marriages now, not in the future. I only state that to show the depths of our depravity which emphasized the magnitude of our miracle. Yours may evolve within 30 days.....mine did 30 days after I registered and started opening my mind to new concepts that often were diabolically opposed to what I'd always thought ......and those thoughts were what got us into this mess in the first place! (Well, in addition to my husbands betrayal!) My point is that as you open up to new concepts, your miracles will unfold much sooner.
Again, thanks for posting LITW, and I am praying for you. If you'd like, please email me at the address above.