I have to chime in here about all this feel good stuff. I experienced almost the same type of relationship that you described except from a kids prospective.
My parents were all buddy, buddy....celebrating holidays with us like one big happy family.....EXCEPT WE WEREN'T.
Talk about twisting my head up all through life (thank you very little).
My parents established no healthy boundries and tried to act as if what they put us through was normal.
They tell me now that they thought they were helping us.
(I'm thinking not so much)

What I needed were clear healthy boundries, someone to stop telling me "half truths"(better name is LIES) and some one to draw a line in the sand and show me what natural consequences looked like for poor decisions....I needed MORAL truths and instead what I got were mixed signals from mixed up parents that still wrecks havok in my life today.

SORRY..NOT SO FEEL GOOD

Not blaming my parents for my poor decisions as an adult..but I am blaming them for being another sh!tty example in this if it feels good its better world..

My Why's were lies!!!!!!